My MIL who was a horrible toxic woman was buried yesterday. She treated my DH horrendously over the years- making sure he knew always that he was not the favourite son. She had an almost unhealthy obsession with her eldest son who lives in another country.
My FiL was an enabler and while DH thinks he is a sweet put upon old man, I will never forgive him for this.
Anyway, I wondered if anyone with toxic families had found themselves in the situation where history has almost been rewritten on death and everything bad that happened forgotten. My DH seems to be beside himself with grief- it turns out from the eulogy he wrote that she was, in fact, a saint- a wonderful woman who loved her family so much.
Im finding this very difficult to deal with- I know she was his mother after all but I don't understand why he is so beside himself, after all she did to him.
I also do not want his father to be any more involved in our lives than he was before but DH, who is always too busy to be home for bedtime during the week and always has to go into the office at the weekend, seems to have no problem finding the time to spend with his father.
I know I sound a bitter woman but I can't forget what his family have done to mine over the years.
Any advice or thoughts?