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Dirty little secret....why?

39 replies

SummersComing1111 · 28/04/2013 18:13

Ok im ready for the cold hard truth so hit me straight on with it.

Me and my ex have been back together for about a month i asked him when we was gonna tell his friends, he said he wasnt his excuse he doesnt want to ruin things , how his mates knowing could ruin things i dont no....

I no deep down its something bad but i think i need to see it to believe it kind of thing

So why am i a dirty little secret and what should i do ??

OP posts:

pinkyredrose · 28/04/2013 22:17

Oh for gods sake. How about you stop concentrating on me and get back to advising the OP?

DiscoDonkey · 28/04/2013 22:19

Understandable that you would want to try and make things work with your baby's dad, you're not a mug. He's an arse.

piratecat · 28/04/2013 22:23

you should follow your own advice there pinky

pinkyredrose · 28/04/2013 22:29

Are you all enjoying having a go at me? I've apologised and asked that people get back to advising the OP and it still isn't enough piratecat what do you mean by following my own advice?

AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 22:45

pinky just out of interest, what were you trying to achieve when you posted what you did ?

pinkyredrose · 28/04/2013 22:48

Is there any chance that this thread will get back on track or will you lot just not let it?

DiscoDonkey · 28/04/2013 22:51

Pinky I think people just can't get their head round the fact that you didn't think your post was anything other than nasty. Yes you have apologised but it is rather baffling that you didn't think it was a rude thing post in the first place.

MrsSpagBol · 28/04/2013 22:53

Pinky that was unbeliavably rude. I am at your post. Why respond then?

LilyAmaryllis · 28/04/2013 22:54

Well if he's your baby's dad how could you being back together possibly ruin anything? I think its ultimatum time. You should not be a secret. I think you should give him an ultimatum - you are properly, publically back together OR it is over.

AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 22:55

OP, don't be anybody's dirty little secret

You are worth more than that

dontyouwantmebaby · 29/04/2013 00:43

OP - please don't make it HIS decision as to when to tell his friends, just tell them as you see fit.

I wouldn't go out of my way to make a specific point about it (its really no-one's business, so you don't need any big announcement that you're back together) but similarly you shouldn't have to hide the fact too. Def no need to skulk around...I'd be bloody pissed off with him having this childish attitude.

pinky, spectacularly rude post (as if the OP should give a flying fuck what his friends think anyway).

Shellywelly1973 · 29/04/2013 00:45

Op,
Your worth more then this.

Do you go out together on dates or as a family?

Does your bf do stuff with the baby?

Or is it just sex?

I would give him an ultimatum but only do it if you will follow it through, otherwise it will follow make you appear weak to him.

By your description he sounds very young. The saying 'having his cake & eating it' jumps into my mind!

Look after yourself.

PissesGlitter · 29/04/2013 11:22

OP - dump this sad excuse for a man
He is obviously using you

PINKY - you are so rude and you know it, if you like to be blunt, harsh and rude go to AIBU please

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 29/04/2013 19:39

Oh please, Glitter, I doubt that would be tolerated on AIBU anymore than it is here. There are some very nice posters there. I can't think of a board anywhere on MN where Pinky's brand of posting would be entertained.

OP... Ignore the attention seeker here. Think about how this man makes you feel. If he makes you feel 'less than', then he's not for you and you can do very well without him.

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