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Do you love your sister more than your DH

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MotheringShites · 27/04/2013 22:30

I was just reading an article in the MoS about identical twins. It made me think about my sister (not a twin) and how much I love her. I think it's more than my DH but obv not more than DCs.

Anyone else love their sister more than their partner?

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Sunnywithshowers · 28/04/2013 01:19

Yes. I can imagine living without my DH, but not living without my sister.

happyfreeconfused · 28/04/2013 07:43

I love all my immediate family (mum, dad, sister, brother) more than I ever loved exh. I could forgive them anything and stand by them through anything in a way that I would not be prepared to do for a partner. Maybe it just is a different type of love.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe · 28/04/2013 10:48

I have 2 sisters who are both wonderful. I love them as equally as my DH but in a different way. I love my sons the most.

singaporeswing · 28/04/2013 11:00

I love my sister, but get the impression that she doesn't like me that much, judges me & can't see us ever being really close unfortunately.

She isn't an emotional person and can be quite blunt, with us having to pussyfoot around her, whereas DP is ridiculously supportive & lovely.

Bowlersarm · 28/04/2013 11:02

No definitely not.

LalyRawr · 28/04/2013 11:04

If it was a choice of saving my brother or saving my OH, I would save my brother.

Every time.

ByTheSea · 28/04/2013 11:11

I love them both immensely, but differently.

GoombayDanceBand · 28/04/2013 11:19

I don't have a DH but I can't stand my sister.

juneau · 28/04/2013 11:30

God no! My sister and I are not particularly close. I love her, but nowhere near as much as I love my DH.

fishybits · 28/04/2013 11:37

No!

She made me choose between her and DH. I chose DH.

Biscuitsneeded · 28/04/2013 13:46

Hmmmm. I don't love my brother more than my DP. I love my kids most in the world. But actually i trust/can rely on/feel more valued by my best friend than my DP. I guess if I had a sister that's how it would feel, assuming we got on.

VerySmallSqueak · 28/04/2013 13:53

Not much fussed with either tbh.

Cloverer · 28/04/2013 13:56

I don't know actually.

In a "who would you save from a burning building" scenario I'm not sure if I'd go for DH or my sister.

Naysa · 28/04/2013 14:05

I love my sister more than DP but I don't like her at all. It's only the fact that she is my little sister that I haven't punched her in the mouth yet

thegoldenfool · 28/04/2013 19:06

i am an identical twin, and love my DP so much, he is so lovely and caring and we have made together lovely DC

but as seen from this site that isn´t always forever, whereas my sis and I all being well will still be gossiping together when we are 80 . . . .the love is different and perhaps more unconditional

IDoTakeTwo · 28/04/2013 19:10

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LadyBigtoes · 28/04/2013 19:15

No, but I do wish I had a sister I was close to in the way some of you are. I have two - one is great but we're very different in tastes and lifestyle and don't see each other much. The other has always been hard work for me and I've had to pretend we are close while finding her at times impossible. I've recently pulled away more which is a relief. But I fantasise about a sister who could be a true equal, friend and support. (Which is more like what my DP is, so he gets the love!)

ArthurCucumber · 28/04/2013 19:23

No, although I didn't grow up with my sisters so am not sure what a more usual type of sibling bond would be like. Of course there's a major bond, but on the other hand my dh is someone I chose. As things are (i.e. not having grown up with them) he'd definitely win in the save one or the other scenario.

colleysmill · 28/04/2013 19:28

I adore my sister - I'd walk to the ends of the earth for her. She has been my structural support as i for her (i hope) at different times. She is brutally honest with me, she understands everything , she's my sounding board, my biggest critic but my biggest champion and is just generally bloody brilliant and my best friend.

Dh though is complimentary to that though - he tolerates much more, understands with a different set of eyes but also loves unconditionally (again I hope!) and makes me believe I could conquer the world.

I love them same amount but like others have said in different ways . life has taught me noone is indispensable but if I lost either of them them it would leave me bereft.

2rebecca · 28/04/2013 21:56

I love my sister but we are quite different. We have also lived several hundred miles apart for many years which tends to mean her view of me is a bit stuck in the past.

ZZZenagain · 28/04/2013 21:58

about the same but my sister is elder and can be a bossy madam, so on the whole I prefer dh.

Almostfree · 28/04/2013 23:18

I'm an identical twin and I would choose her over my now Ex-DH every time. But that's because he's an arse - in the early days of my marriage he made me choose between her and him (he was jealous of how close we are) and I put him first. Until I realised he was trying to drive us apart and that generally he's not a very nice person.
Any new partner would have to accept that she's a huge part of my life and not try to compete.
Much as we bicker and argue I can see us sharing a room at the nursing home when we're in our '80s, still bickering and arguing....

Jojobump1986 · 28/04/2013 23:28

I love them differently. My love for DSis is probably closer to how I feel about my DCs, although much less intensely. She's 6 years younger than me & I've always sort of 'mothered' her. I feel v protective of her whereas DH can look after himself! If it was a one-or-other type situation I'd probably choose DSis purely because I'd feel more responsible for her safety than for DH's.

Selba · 28/04/2013 23:38

yes

chipmonkey · 28/04/2013 23:40

Tough question!
I love my children the most.
Dh is always here but dsis has always been there. In testing times, dh has definitely been more of a suppport than dsis but she could probably say the same of her dh and me.
I wouldn't like to have to choose!

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