Do you stay in an unhappy marriage for your children?

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I'm dying inside - my marriage has never been right for me and I'm desperate to find some happiness before its too late (I'm 50). But my kids are young - 12, 9 and 6, and my husband is not a bad man, it's just that I've never loved him and I crave companionship and understanding that he just can't give me. We married because of my first pregnancy and I think it was right to give it a go, but for me it just never worked. I did try - organised weekends away for us etc, tried to discuss where things were not working, but our issues never got resolved and now it's too late for me. But my babies... I don't know if I can do it to them.... But I don't think I can live like this much longer either... Has anyone else faced this?

My parents stayed together for the 'sake of the children' - worst decision they ever made. Do your children a favour, get divorced!

BTW. As your DH is not taking the idea of separation well I would say you have to make a decision one way or another relatively quickly. Splitting and staying are both problematic but going for a halfway house is a very cruel solution all round. I think that's why you're getting such a hostile response and you'll have to decide which way to jump soon

Hi there, if you would like to have a private discussion about the legal implications of separation and how to protect your and your children's interests then please send me a private message. I know how difficult and emotional the process may be - if you decide to separate from your husband. For now though, make sure that you think things through and that your decision is the right one.