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Hate filled , and really fricking lonely .

51 replies

Littleblue · 25/04/2013 23:57

Pathetic isn't it ... worked so hard to keep men at a safe distance , I failed to notice how lonely I am .... as soon as men flirt with me I want to kill them , heard it all before .... the internet is riddled with fappers and im so bloody tired ....

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Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 20:17

Clipped, i was also a rebound, my ex got divorce shortly after me and him getting together, god its depressing.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 20:17

*before

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:22

It's the chance you take though huh Lou. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger though ay. When all's said and done you have to find a positive somewhere. At least you have a chance now the dead wood is gone, you've learned signs and you won't fall back into that trap again.

minkembra · 26/04/2013 20:23

Clipped pm me too pls. although at this rate you would be just as well posting it and seeing if it gets deleted- don't think it will though.

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:27

Ok, thinking about it people mention dating sites a lot here. It's called "Maturefreeandsingle". A very busy site for a change.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 20:29

Shame im 10 years too young for that one.

Hissy · 26/04/2013 20:30

Thanks clipped! Not sure if my reply to the PM worked, so thanks here too!

How does that site work? signing up means you can make and receive messages?

I was on Match Affinity before, that was good. Expensive though.

Met my boyf there, and that's lasted a year. But it's not going to work out, time to move on and all that.

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:31

Im so sorry Lou. I work with lots of younger girls than me, will ask around for you.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 20:32

No worries Clipped, i kinda abandoned my love life years ago.

Hissy · 26/04/2013 20:32

As for the OP, don't lose heart love. You can work through this. You're entitled to be angry about the past, but remember that it's to work through yourself, learn from, not take out on poor unsuspecting buggers!

Don't tolerate tossers, no reason why you should! I really hate the chancers, as if anyone ever went out with someone using the pathetic lines they trot out...

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:39

As all of them, they want your dosh before you can send/receive but what i did was post a profile and see what happened before i joined. I was inundated with messages. Everyone coming on line show up etc. it's busy, very busy. It's also cheaper than a lot of others per month.

Hissy, sorry to hear that. Onwards and upwards ay. I go through phases and every day is different. Im up one day and down the next but know that it will get better. My heart is sore but not broken.

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:41

Oh and I've sent the drunken texts, boy have i done that! Grin so what! it stops me making an arse of myself with someone new. Give the shit to the one that deserves it i say...

Olderkidsaremine · 26/04/2013 20:45

Thanks clipped - although on the front page everyone was the age of my dad!!! Don't really want to go there! It did get better and I discovered several in my little village!

Yes I glad it wasn't longer than a couple of dates still hurts to be thought of a stand in though!

Never mind cos I have a date tomorrow :) still keeping options open though

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 20:52

Patience Older, patience is the key to any site. Like I said, it does come across as an old place but I think it's merged with others so lots of 40's on there.

Just think of your experience as it could have been anyone with those two, it will probably happen again with someone else, their relationship is obviously unhealthy but they just can't let go yet and you're lucky to be out of it all.

Loulybelle · 26/04/2013 20:56

i tried eHarmony once and got no matches, i must be unique.

Olderkidsaremine · 26/04/2013 20:58

Yes that's what I keep saying to myself clipped unfortunately I remember doing the same with my ex husband but my justification at the time was that we had kids together!

The date was arranged a couple of days ago on another dating website - didn't just jump into a date straight away on this new one!!

ClippedPhoenix · 26/04/2013 21:06

I actually jump right in to be honest. cant be bothered with this massive message thing and you do actually become emotionally involved with words and a voice. best to meet and get it out of the way quickly Grin

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Littleblue · 30/04/2013 18:17

I think I'll avoid ... I opened a profile on that site and had lots of messages ... but I'm clearly hate filled and needing therapy lol , I'd rather get another dog in all honesty Grin

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Littleblue · 30/04/2013 18:18

All I did was register , no pics , no words.... just so I could have a look .... I might subscribe when I've got over whatevers filling me with bile ... recent exe hurt me so bad and train wrecked my head.

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Olderkidsaremine · 30/04/2013 19:26

Date on saturday was a lovely man, talked for nearly three hours and then arranged to meet him lunchtime todaySmile . Talked for another hour and a half! Not used to someone so nice, laid backed but geniune, agreed not to rush things so we will see what happens Smile

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Littleblue · 30/04/2013 22:53

I hope you all find what you need from your dating adventures ... I started this thread in a fit of self pity , its gone somewheres else without me ... lol , so enjoy ladies .... I'll step out .

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Littleblue · 30/04/2013 22:54

H.I.J.A.C.K Grin

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UnlikelyAmazonian · 01/05/2013 00:10

15 quid a MONTH? Just to see who's local? Jeesh. It's stupid money.

UnlikelyAmazonian · 01/05/2013 22:43

Oh, and maturefreeandsingle.com is powered by these people and they certainly aint putting love before money.

In fact having read their blurb I am going to set up a profitable dating website that can see me in cocktails til I turn 90 too!

pip pip!

feckers.

UnlikelyAmazonian · 01/05/2013 22:46

It gets better: here is the management team:

all men