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I' feel horrible just said terrible things to oh in front of baby :(

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Wishfulmakeupping · 19/04/2013 20:21

Long story resentments been building all week something quite trivial turned into me laying into him verbally told him he was useless and our baby deserved better (not true he's a wonderful dad) I can't stop crying I've really upset him and things were said that he won't forgot.
I feel like shit and now my little baby is noticing that I'm stressed and getting stressed :(

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 19/04/2013 20:23

No lasting harm will be done I'm sure but it does feel horrible when it happens, how old is the baby?

nenevomito · 19/04/2013 20:24

How old is your baby? are you still at the sleepless night stage? When mine were little and I was permanently exhausted, DH and I had some humdinger rows.

Its one row and I'm sure things will settle down. Can you go and make up?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 19/04/2013 20:26

She's 11 weeks. We are both tired I just keep pushing him I know I'm not being fair :( he's accepted my apology but I can tell he's genuinely upset I feel sick

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 19/04/2013 20:29

Oh Wishful it will be OK. You're both exhausted and your hormones are still all over the place, have you spoken to your GP or health visitor about how you feel? Sending you a sneaky hug.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 19/04/2013 21:12

I don't think it's anything less PNd it's just little things are annoying me more I'm trying to make everything perfect for baby and its not happening- but I shouldn't take it out on oh

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Wishfulmakeupping · 19/04/2013 21:12

But thank u :)

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happyfirsttimemummy · 19/04/2013 21:25

Don't worry! Your baby will have forgotten all about the stress in a matter of minutes. You're bound to argue at this point...every couple does, I'm sure of it. Me and the OH were at eachothers throats a few weeks in. Just try to stay calm and rationalise things by thinking about why you're upset...are you tired etc. If tensions arise, put the baby somewhere safe for a minute leave the room and talk things over. It's much easier that way. 6 months on, me and the OH are as happy as anything, you just have to persevere and try to stay sane :) Hope this has helped.

Good luck, and enjoy your LO. They grow up so fast x

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Wishfulmakeupping · 19/04/2013 21:29

Thank you we love little one so much it's me being daft and letting small things get to me- I'm just tired that's all. Oh is fine now

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