My Mum died last year and I am having problems with my Dad.
He seems to be coping reasonably well on his own and is going out and about, sings in a local choir and socialises. However, since my Mum died he has been very odd about letting me and my DH stay and we have only been in the house once. I live a couple of hundred of miles away and previously visited regularly every 3 months or so (a lot more during my Mum's illness) to catch up with family, friends and see my old hometown. My brother, who lives overseas is coming next month with his kids and staying in a hotel nearby and I am planning to go down and visit.
His main (stated) reason is that there isn't room - Dad is a bit of a hoarder and lives in a 3 bed house, but in December there was space in one spare room. I have let this go for 8 months, last time I stayed with ILs but I really miss my old house etc and feel shut out and unsupported after my Mum's death. Finances mean I can't afford to stay in a hotel but I don't see why I should have to when my family home is available.
Am hoping my brother may be of help but this may escalate into a big argument... However I can't just let it go as I might never return to my family home!