Those nice little romantic gestures... What do you/ does your dp do?

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Little things such as my dp sometimes sneaks out to get breakfast in the morning and buys flowers.

lots of vomit inducing stuff please.

ladyjadie- that's lovely!

Ladyjadie, that is such a beautiful thing to say

Love this thread!

He doesn't play mind games. Ever.

He is kind and thoughfull and patient and reassuring.

He drives me everywhere.

Yesterday he drove to my work to drop off money so I could go for after-work drinks. He also pre-empted an order for a chinese takeaway so I could scoff it when I got in and then crash out

He buys me flowers, brings home chocolate, gets me my favourite bottle of wine.

He's like no man I've ever met, and if I'd known there were men like him around I wouldn't have wasted my time with arseholes for so many years

He brings breakfast in bed every weekend morning.
He writes me a mail every night after calling me whenever he is working away and gives me my alarm call to wake me up the next morning.
He understands with one look when something has upset me or if I'm just not feeling great.
He always tries to feed me the nicest piece of food, the most perfect strawberry etc.
He is a wonderful stepson to ds and has turned him into such a little man capable of facing the world when he was a bit of a mummy's boy before (still is at heart).
He's just a totally solid character and if he says he'll always love me, I believe him.

He give up his job to become my full-time carer.

He brings me my pain killers and rubs my pain when I'm crying out in pain.

He fights my corner for me when my DR's are not listening.

He brings me some flowers or my favourite chocolate from the shop.

He reads my books/magazines to me when I am in too much pain to read them myself.

He lets me have a lie in.

He holds my hand when I go to sleep and come round for surgery like he has never left me

He loves me and stands by me with all of my health problems.

He tells me I look great even when I know I don't.

He holds me and allows me to cry on him when my health is getting to me, no matter what time it is.

I met DP when I first came out of a DV relationship and he showed me how men can really be :) He does have his down sides though

-He always kisses me goodbye before he leaves for work, even when I'm asleep.
-My health stuff has never fazed him, he has always supported and loved me and makes sure I know it.
-He buys me everything he sees with my name on (you don't often see my spelling, so I get very excited when I see my name spelt right! So far I have a book about a cat, a bottle of cider and a dinosaur!)

Asking him what are the most romantic things I do for him and he says:

• How I always look after him when he has man flu.
• Bake him cookies when he wants.
• Never have an issue with him going out with his mates.
• Always sticks up for him with his family (they are weird and always kick off on him for no reason!)

Also it's nice to read such a lovely thread :-).

I feel all too more inadequate now .

I could write a book about the little things, so I wool stick to the most important at the moment:
We are finding parenting a four month old and nearly three treat old hard going.
He spends hours building train tracks with DS 1, waking up and down with a refluxy DS 2. He takes then both to the park so I can sleep late at weekends, and brings me tea in bed. He buys flowers at the supermarket and sends DS1 in to give them to me. He spends hours telling me (and anyone who will listen) about his lovely boys.
He tells me I'm doing a great job, which I really need to hear.
He emails me during the day, just chat, telling me things to make me smile.
I feel like he thinks about making me happy. It's lovely.

He brings me a cup of tea every morning, tells me he loves me every day and every night and in between. Texts me to tell me he misses me. Tells me he misses me when Ive been away or he has. Takes me out for romantic dinners. Hunts out dvds I want to watch and buys them on amazon as a surprise. Takes me to the beach for icecream and coffee and a walk by the sea. Always holds my hand. Tells me that Im the most important person in his life. Works hard at his job which involves a lot of stress and up to 14 hour days at worse. Cleans if hes off and Im at work. Takes me to work in the snow. Brings me lunch at work if I cant get away. And....he asks me to marry him every single day...(we have been married for 27 years he he!.

This has got to be one of the most loveliest threads ever on here

We don't do hearts & flowers stuff. Either of us.
However, he cooks, all the time. And washes my car when it's freezing cold and I don't want to. And drives me places I need to go when my car isn't working or I have a stomach bug and can't stop throwing up long enough to drive myself.
I'd rather that than roses in all honesty

Erm, not that I have a permanent stomach bug. Just that he did a 3hr round trip a couple of weeks ago when I did and couldn't do it myself.
And he didnt complain much when he got it a few days later

Whenever he tells me to do something horrible like do some washing it's because there's a bunch of roses waiting in the laundry.

He warms the bed and my pyjamas and towels for me when I'm cold.

When I get in my car the petrol is always full and he buys me a chocolate bar.

He always offers to pick me up when I go out no matter what.

He tells me how beautiful I am everyday.

He buys me jewelry because he wants me to have nice things!

Nothing!

Love reading these replies.

He acts like a real partner -- cooks, cleans, deals with tiresome whatnot like bills and taxes and car maintenance and house maintenance, walks our dog, does laundry, etc. I do all that too but what I love about him is that he takes on more than his fair share on weeks when I'm overloaded with work or sick and as he does it he tells me he's glad to do it.

He also tells me how beautiful I am every day. And tells me how much he loves me every day. And tells me how glad he is we're married every day.

And in the mornings he gets up first and brings a cup of coffee and the laptop to me in the bed

When we were both still working at the same place (pre-marriage) he used to leave biscuits on my desk. I always knew they were from him because he'd break them in half "so the calories would fall out"

He lets me warm my forever cold hands on his warm belly or neck.
He vacumms on the weekend (upstairs and downstairs).
He reads the kids bedtime story with animated, funny voices.
He has said that he does love the dog now (didn't agree to her at first).

It's not typical gestures of love, but for us it does mean something. If I want anything I have to tell him I'd like xyz, and then he will do it. Not especially romantic, but he does try which is halfway there.

He writes I love you in the steam on the mirror after his shower before I walk in, he leaves post-it notes in my handbag of romantic/Vom inducing messages, sends me flowers to work, took me to Claridges Gordon Ramsay restaurant "just coz I love you". Above all he's my best friend, amazing with my toddler and is the only person on the planet who knows how to stop my tears and make me smile when im upset, makes me feel safe and tells me I'm beautiful all the time

He gets up with the children and take them to school so I can sleep longer.

He makes me a coffee before I go to bed.

We don't share a room due to his meds he take and his snoring and my insomnia. Every night he comes into my bed for an hour for a cuddle and then he tucks me in.

He empties the bins and does all the recycling because he knows I hate it.

He tells me he loves me all the time.

He often brings me home some chocolate when he knows I need cheering up.

I could go on...

Me? I am always thinking of him, if I am out and about and see something he will like I will buy it. Not expensive things, just little bits and bobs.

If I know he is in pain or something I will pop into the chemist to buy him stuff on the way home from school just so he doesn't have to do it.

I tell him I love him all the time and randomly tell him how handsome and wonderful he is.

I often pick him up a couple of cans of lager if I know he has likely had a stressful day.

There is so much more!!

Ahh, my DH is not romantic at all. I'm not a big romantic either but if I'm honest, I'd love to have someone who brings me flowers, makes me a cup of tea every morning, leaves silly messages for me and tells me I'm beautiful.

He has brought me flowers, bought me chocolates and croissants (my favourites!), made me a cup of tea, but these are once in a blue moon events, not a constant.

We do go out for coffee/meals together and he's kind that way.

He says he loves me, and I do believe him and love him too, he's a great dad, and great support in many other ways. So I guess I'll just have to be happy with that and don't get too upset about the absence of little gestures. But when I hear other couples have all that too, I get a bit jealous. Sorry...

He farts on my head.

Sorry to lower the tone but i couldnt resist! I do find it hilarious (and it is vomit inducing!)

Were not really very romantic...

He always goes out to scrape the car windscreen in the winter before I go to work.
If I'm really tired he lets me have both weekend lie ins.
He buys me little presents for no reason other than because I'd like them.
He tells me I look hot when I feel drab and frumpy.

nothing, apparently he is too depressed to think of anyone except himself and how miserable his life is.

He gets up with the kids and leaves me to sleep longer.. Every day.
He makes me tea in the morning.
Takes kids to park weekends so I can do my sport.
Takes time off work when I'm ill.
Kisses me hello and goodbye always.