My role as wife? Any thoughts welcome!

[Celticcat]

Cutting to the chase, dh and I are in couple counseling and we've been given the task of coming up with a description of how we see our roles in our marriage.
Tbh, I used to be really old fashioned (probably due to Catholic upbringing and narc parents who turned me into a people pleaser) and dh has made full use of this.
However, I'm now totally pissed off with being his doormat and want to see some changes in our relationship.
But besides knowing what I don't want, I am having great difficulties coming up with what I do want.
Can't say I have any role models at all.
Does anybody have any suggestions/ guiding principles that work for them? Thanks ever so!!

Thanks, mumngran, that has me nearly in tears its so "spot on".
Because that is all I ask, equality on all levels, not just the ones that suit dh.

Well, that's a perfect 'ask'. And it covers a lot of issues.

So focus on those issues which affect you and concern you. And try to spell our what you want to be different, and how you could know if it was. What would he do which he isn't doing now, which you want?