I have a negative 'friend' and I'm trying to work out if she's toxic, a bitch or something else.
I met her at the school gates and we became friends, met up for coffee, I helped her decorate, etc.
I recently had a nervous breakdown and was signed off sick. Her sister is management of a place similar to where I worked so she felt she knew the ins and outs of everything related to my job. 
She started by telling me that 'at her sister's work' (sounds like we're 12, doesn't it) I would've been sacked as they wouldn't put up with me being off. She asked me continuously what was going to do about work (this was at a point in my life when getting out of bed and brushing my teeth was a huge task) to the point where I lied and told her I'd handed my notice in.
Her next questions were continuous 'what are you going to do now?' and 'how's your job hunting going?' and 'jobs are really hard to come by, especially now'. She knew I was ill, knew I was on medication and knew I was going through a rough time. Yet she was really demanding and wouldn't settle with me telling her I didn't know/hadn't decided.
Her husband recently forced her to get a job after years of her not working and I thought that she may have been jealous that I was now the one sitting about twiddling my thumbs - I wrote that off as a really silly thing to be jealous about though.
I was diagnosed with PTSD and hypervigilance. She's ex army and was really unhappy about this as she felt it was reserved for soldiers and people in high stress and danger. She made this clear and has distanced herself from me since this revelation.
If she's asked what I've been doing and I reply that I've just been chilling out she'll say 'why, are you sick', rolls her eyes and her pathetic mate titters.
Latest thing is we've (myself and DP) have been looking at buying a house, currently in rented but my parents are downsizing and have offered us some help. I haven't told her this but in discussion budget came up and it happens to be more than their budget was when they bought (not that I'm lording over her or anything). She now tells me weekly about how the house prices in this area are going to double (they're not - trust me) because they're building a local cinema and again, because there's an army base 40 miles away that's been there for years .
There's other petty stuff too, similar to the above.
I've written her off as a wanker but was wondering if this is the 'toxic' behavour we talk about. Or is it just insecurity?
