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Is it ok to feel desperately sad about the end of my marriage

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Mosschops30 · 14/04/2013 00:10

We have been separated for about a month.
I initiated it because we had no intimacy, no affection, he didnt share household tasks and didnt respect my career or anything I'd achieved.

I've been fine, enjoying time alone with dcs, bought some new bits and bobs.

He came over today, to discuss finances. He said something sad and I said 'aww do you want a hug' half joking, he said yes and we did. It's probably the first time we've touched in a year.

We talked about things and how sad we were it had ended up like this. I asked if he wanted to go on a date but he said he'd kind of just got used to us being apart and wasn't sure he could do it.

So he left, and I am feeling fucking bereft HmmHmm worse than I've felt for weeks.
Does this mean I made the wrong decision? Is this normal?

HmmHmmHmmHmm

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Mosschops30 · 15/04/2013 15:07

nom good to have you back, thanks for that Smile

4some the thought of another relationship terrifies me, even if it was blissful I would be waiting for all those things to slip in and make it shit!!

randall OMG I feel exactly the same, Dh loves the dcs to pieces and I know that no other man will love them like that HmmHmmI have deprived them of this because I'm not happy which makes me feel awful.

I think we need a 'sad ex wives who left cos they weren't happy' club GrinGrin

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RandallPinkFloyd · 15/04/2013 15:09

We really do!

Dozer · 15/04/2013 17:34

Am another one who has seen your treads and am glad to hear this news. You haven't deprived your DC, they can still spend time with their father.

And by the sounds of it the problem was him being abusive, or at the least very unpleasant, towards you, not just differences or whatever.

Dozer · 15/04/2013 17:35

Maybe spend minimal time with him at this early stage?

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Mosschops30 · 15/04/2013 18:49

Thanks dozer I definately learnt that the hard way this weekend.
He did ask if I wanted to go on the rugby tour this weekend but I've said no, I think it would be upsetting for everyone

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GETLOVESPELL · 07/04/2015 11:01

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FuckitAndStartAgain · 07/04/2015 11:12

I know my marriage was causing me huge damage. But I still miss him and think I still love him. I am two years on. I know I need more time to really 'get' that I am better off without the man who was the move of my life and best friend for 32 years.

But I am sure I will be better. You will too mosschops.

With care from another oldie who has read your posts and posted her uncertainty under different names for a number of years. X

maras2 · 07/04/2015 11:22

2 year old Zombie thread.

Namechanger2015 · 07/04/2015 17:56

How did MossChops30 get on? Is she still on here?

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