ht dnauw iWas hoping to get some advice and suggestions for coping with, or overcoming an ongoing issue. Been putting off posting for s while as I have my good and bad days but things are getting worse mentally for me.
DH and I have been married three years, have two DS's and I have two more from previous marriage.i've never been a jealous person and I'm blessed to recognise I have good qualities myself. However since DH and I get together ive always been insanely jealous of his Ex who he doesn't really see or speak with. We're of different cultures and his ex was a superb housewife, cook etc, whereas I'm more academically minded. That aside, I'm forever being self critical and feel like I'm going mad, as at times literally everything I do I'm comparing myself to her, e.g. 'well shed havedone it better' and the like. My DH is wonderful and patient with me, but did admit he loved her more than he loves me, but that he doesn't love her now. They had a largely happy marriage for twenty years, married at sixteen and shared all their 'first' experiences together. DH says he is hundred percent confident that he will grow to love me even more than he did her in time. I admire his honesty and he really is lovely with me and never compares us openly ever. I can understand the reality of what he says too, that love takes time to deepen - so why does it hurt so much!
The main problem is that my jealousy could ruin our marriage, as I am so resentful I become v difficult and argumentative. I subject him to hours of interrogation about 'why di d he love her more'