Mid life crisis

[Matilda74]

I think my husband is having a midlife crisis :0) he just walked out on me and the kids before Christmas. I was so devastated that I tried to kill myself and nearly did. He is cold towards me and refused to talk to me so me being me stole his phone and read everything :0( he was seeing a woman over the road. I tried to kick him in the balls and he called the police on me. He threw me on the floor and said it was self defence.
I haven't reacted very well but I still think of him as my husband of twenty years and am always shocked at the way he reacts to me. It's really horrible. He says he hasn't done anything wrong and I am mental, ugly a looser. He laughs in my face when I say how upset I am and mention the kids are beside themselves. He has reported me for assault and I am on bail. I don't know how I got here ?? Four months ago I was married and now my husband is with his second partner !! It all started when his father became terminally ill. Everytime I pick myself up he knocks me down again and I don't understand why ? He says marriages end all the time but he didn't even say anything to the kids he was in such a hurry to get out. He was lovely before this, always kissing me on the forehead every morning. Where did that man go :0(

I'm really sad you lost your eldest son, that is so horrific, I'm really sorry xx kind of puts things into perspective. I'm glad you are ok and walking your dogs legs off :0)

"he is so angry and looks unhappy when he did it all. "

You say you knew he had a nasty, spiteful streak and, with people like that, it's only a matter of time before it gets turned back on those nearest i.e. you and the children.

He's rationalised his actions by blaming others. A 'you forced me to do this against my better judgement' rationale is far easier for him to live with than 'I decided to do this all by myself'. Rejecting his children is a very cruel way of moving on by pretending a past life didn't exist.... have seen it before. It shows him up as being very callous, emotionally illiterate, refusing to accept responsibility for his actions and a pretty pathetic excuse of an adult male all round.

I'm just horrified at it all and never would have believed this would happen to us.

A year on and he continued to be a shit and is still looking angry ! I now have an injunction to stop him or his horrid girlfriend coming near me. My children are happy and still refusing to see him. There grades are back up in school :0)
I have secured the equity in the house to buy us somewhere and signed over our business to him ( which he removed me from anyway) he is apparently penniless ???
We are having our Cafcass interviews and as two are teenagers I'm not sure there's a lot they can do.
I must say Cafcass are not my favourite thing but apart from that we are doing ok and are happy x
Thankyou for talking to me previously the last year has been like a weird eastenders plot and I didn't for one minute think it would happen to me. I'm confused by my husband playing the victim but his bizarre behaviour has reached others now and his girlfriend sent an abusive text to my daughter so they are showing people who they are.
I must say the police took their time to protect me but also that Survive and the national domestic violence team don't waist any time getting you protected and they turned our life around with there support.

Hi Matilda, so pleased things are on the up for you. onwards and upwards even more. thank you for updating and letting us know how your are. xx