bouncer - having just gone thru this I sympathise hon, like Xav I did most of the stuff with my DH apart form feeding, I would say to him 'do u think think this is ok?' and he'd say to me 'if you do this like that' and vice versa it helped him to feel included. also he did the house work etc and I tried to pitch in when I could- not often! but the m/w came around and gave me some advice i'll give to you - all u're to do for the first few weeks is eat sleep and feed, your DH can do the nasty nappy changes/winding/dressing if you wish to dress the baby.
I found when I didn't get enough sleep (and still do 11 weeks on) that all I do all day ois cry - but it's purely over tiredness. try having a nap with baby next to you in the room, if not is there some one who can watch baby for a few hours whilst you do manage some sleep? - if they're in your house u can always be woken up if your feeding.
I don't think men do appriciate how hard it is for us mums, or if they do they seem to think they can do nothing and feel sorry for them sleves cos they work all day you know and us mums do nothing! (bloody cheek) thing is thou, you will feel sensitive - lord know's I was, it's all natural. honestly hon, in a few weeks you'll look back and say yes I was but things are bit better now.
(also my DH is better/was better at winding Joey than I am, so I asked him how he did it and sat down, he showed me how he did it I tried and then he gave me pointers - little things but he felt included with the baby iycwim)
also it's easy for everyone to say yes it's normal, and I didn't believe hte girls on here when my MIL was down and I perceived her as interfering etc when Joey was 2 weeks old, it was a case of he's my boy and I don't care what you say i'm doing everythink! but this time when they came down everything was more relaxed, she bathed him etc, and I got some rest, i'm not saying palm your baby off all the time but use your DH to get some rest.