I wasn't sure how to word the title but I feel as though something isn't right in my relationship. I am a chatty person and when I am with friends we always chat about ourselves, other people, ideas, feelings, anything really. However when I am with DP, also female, I am really quiet. We will ask each other how our day was (although DP didn't use to ask me- she used to say she shouldn't need to ask and I should just tell her stuff) but then lapse into silence and watch TV or play on our phones. We are both teachers so we often have work to do as well.
Over the course of a normal evening, I will often spontaneously want to talk to DP but because and is busy, I always call her name first to get her attention. She will often not reply. I wait a good 30 secs and then call her name again. Invariably her response is WHAT?! in an aggressive tone. This then makes me feel as though I don't want to talk. So often, I just don't.
Most evenings, I ring my elderly parents to see how they are and we have a quick chat. At other times, I go on mumsnet. DP however seems to resent this and complains that I tell my parents more than her or that I am 'on the Internet with strangers' instead of talking to her- but how can I talk to her when she is so difficult to talk to?