I could do with some kind advice. Background: My fiancé is 30 and I'm 31, recently engaged, no kids.
Our life together is fab, except recently sex has deteriorated.
Where we stand at the moment, midweek is off the cards because he's too tired from work. (He's a teacher.) Then at the weekend we have a very busy social life and it almost always involves drinking so evenings are out of the question because it's late by the time we get in.Then recently in the wkend mornings he's started having trouble with his fella not really working iyswim. So at the moment I reckon we're averaging at best once a week, maybe once a fortnight. If it was up to me we'd dtd much more often!
Over several months I've tried all approaches I can think of - trying to gently initiate things, asking directly when we can dtd, little jokes, sit down talks to ask if anything's wrong or bothering him, asking if theres anything i should do, complaining, and getting huffy. I tried saying nothing and not initiating anything for a long time and the outcome was, he didn't try anything so we stopped having sex. I've tried suggesting that we stay in more and cut down on the alcohol, this Friday we were invited to 3 different things but I said I'm staying in- the result is he's going without me. I even bought some sexy underwear but haven't worn it because the result of all this is that I now feel totally unsexy too. Now when he (rarely) initiates it, to be honest I feel a bit resentful that I've been brushed off so often and yet I somehow can't say no because in the end, I really do want to sleep with him! Advice please, Internet strangers! Thanks...