Upset

[rachi1990xx]

Before me an DP had DS we used to have so much fun we were best friends soul mates (cheesy) n we never argued we were intimate regularly just so in love x now we hardly hug, kiss, talk we even sleep in separate duvets i feel like we r jus 2 ppl living together . Ive tried everything iv asked him if he doesn't find me attractive anymore which he said you know i lovevv u so never really snswered me

Posted too soon x i jus wondered if anyone else had been through this as i feel like im losing him x

not exactly, but, how old is DS?

12 weeks x

congratulations!! but I found the first 6 months really hard. Maybe its just tiredness? are you breastfeeding? some men feel a bit left out from the bond a mum and a newborn have

No DS is bottlefed but i make sure they have plenty of bonding time such as taking baths together feeding ect DS had op at 5 w/o for PS and we seemed really strong after that but weve slowly started drifting apart hopefully it will pass abd we will go bk to how we were x

12 weeks is so soon after giving birth. You're both still adjusting and probably knackered. But at the same time, I think it's probably quite wise to keep an eye on the relationship.

Have you sat down with your DP and asked him about how he's coping with fatherhood? What he feels is expected of him? How he feels about meeting those demands? How he thinks he can balance that with being your partner, an employee, a friend, a son? Does he view you differently as a mother?

Ask him these questions. It might feel uncomfortable, but the simple act of talking rather than simply supplying reassuring platitudes (which don't require a lot of thought in all honesty) may rebuild the intimacy between you.

Thanks all think i will sit him down tonight and talk to him x

I agree, with above. Have a good talk tonight.

Some men take time to come to terms with the additional responsibility a baby brings.

12 weeks is nothing. Don't worry yet.

Have a chat about it. A man will never voluntarily admit he is struggling!