advice re solicitor and controlling husband. Odd behaviour.

[Lahti]

Hi all, I have posted here a couple of times with the following posts. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1662463-Am-I-being-unreasonable and www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1726740-Legally-separate-or-divorce

Anyway H went to a solicitor today and explained that I had asked him to move out of the house and wanted to separate. Apparently she advised him that we should go back to couples counselling to sort out our differences. She then went on to say that we could downsize our house and then get another property as a buy to let!!!
My question is do you think a solicitor really said this?
Is this just a way to take control again? Did he even go to a solicitor? I am getting a bit concerned about his behaviour as I rang the citizens advice bureau regarding finances and the house and I mentioned a couple of minor things regarding his behaviour and they told me to contact Womens Aid. I did ring womens aid and they described him to a tee. Not sure what to think, just feeling a bit odd about it all.

Yes, absolutely do not ever, ever buy a property with him. It is just another mechanism of control.

Thanks guys. He came round last night going on again about buying another property (using nearly all our savings and borrowing from his brother to do so). Why oh why does he not get the message?
Talked about access he wants 50:50 which is fine by me except my definition is different to his ie he doesn't think that he can manage my definition. He then went on to say that maintenance would be £30 PW with 50:50 so that just shows me why he wants that access. Seeing solicitor on Tuesday and house being valued on Thursday. I just keep thinking that in 1 year this will all be over.

You don't need to let him in, you know. Change the locks or keep a key in the door so he can't let himself in. You don't have to talk to him at all and if he makes a nuisance of himself you can involve the police.