Can you help my friend? She's looking for love.

[SecondhandRose]

She is 37, divorced with a nearly 9 year old daughter. She lives in South Essex.

She works full time in central London. She has a good job but she's not a Nicola Horlick nor the salary either

She would like to have more children at some point.

She is 5ft 6" with brown shoulder length hair and is very slim.

She has been divorced a few years now and is looking for someone over 5ft 9, kind and trustworthy. Perhaps someone that doesn't live too far from south Essex and doesn't mind her having a child.

Any men, brothers, ex-husbands out there? Does your husband work with anyone that fits the bill?

No jokers please.

TIA

Perhaps advising her to join an introduction agency would be a better idea ? I'm sure that there are plenty of them around.

Also not sure that asking people to introduce your friend to their ex-husband is the best idea !

Hope she finds the man of her dreams

Aar, but there is the right man for all of us out there, we just have to find him.

No to dating agencies,she has tried b4, too expensive as well. She is on a tight budget, no benefits, she is a lovely lady and managing to keep herself and her daughter and has her own home finally in her name. I am really proud of what she has achieved these last few years.

Fair enough, I'm afraid that have no men to offer you/her. The ones I know that are single are single for a reason

Does she belong to any clubs or anything. Amateur Dramatics or book club, perhaps an evening class in something she is interested in - languages, gardening ?

The Times personal ads have worked for someone I know (also single mother) - very nice, 'high quality' replies. I'm not sure Mumsnet is quite the place for a personal ad though!

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Why not aloha? We've all got family and friends, everyone neeeds someone

My friend is sick of bars and clubs, the dating game is not much fun when the bars are full of 18 yr old singletons. A child complicates things further.

Got mine through personal ads - cost me the price of a 2nd class stamp!

What about the Guardian small ads? In the Guide bit on a Saturday.

My friend had a very young child, is not happily living in the country with a posh farmer and his kids. Sounds idyllic to me!
I only meant I just don't think posting on a female forum will work - if it does I will be v suprised!

Sorry, don't have any ex-husbands or suitable friends.....

A lot of my friends have met their partners through the internet. I think there are lots of sites where you can register to find love. Don't know them, but just do a search.

Suppose it's the cost really, she doesn't have the funds for £50 ads.

She's looking for that nice bloke that you know from the pub or your brother!

If anyone knows of a safe website, I wd be really grateful.

But it didn't cost me anything but 19p!

SHR, I think that you are right to look amongst family and friends for your friend - I wish my friends were so thoughtful. I am not a good advert for finding love, but I would highly recommend to your friend a book "Get a Life, then Get a Man" by Jennifer Bawden which is very cheerful and positive and aimed at mature working women. My own experience is all in favour of blind dates with friends of friends but dead against wasting money on introduction agencies.

I found someone Here

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There's been a whole trend of websites recently for exactly this thing - the idea that someone you know introduces you to someone they know. In the US it's called friendster, loads of celebrities have used it even! In the UK the equivalent is here .

Crunchie, you have a larf or what! Emailed it to my friend anyway to cheer her up and have sent the other links to her too.

Thanks, keep em coming