dh taking time off soon.... not looking forward to it

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This might sound really awful but dh is planning to take 4 weeks off in March and I'm kind of dreading it. I'm a SAHM and a part-time student, but I do a lot of my studying at home and I'm also quite used to doing my own thing during the week with ds. DH goes on business trips quite a lot when he's working, which might have something to do with my feeling of independence... I'm used to running things on my own most of the time! I actually look enjoy it when dh is away on business because it allows me to relax a little with regard to housework, cooking meals etc.

Anyway I just feel that 4 weeks with dh around the house is going to be too much for me to bear... would anyone else feel like this? We are planning to take ds out for day trips etc, but I just feel that it's going to be a bit stifling. Awful isn't it

I do know what you mean.
My Dh works shifts and has odd days off here and there which I really look forward too. BUT as soon as the day arrives he spoils any routine I've got with 3DS's and farts and faffs around generally bugging me all the way and so I look forward to him going back to work.
It a vicious circle really.

I have to just add I love him to bits......he just doesn't always make it easier when he's here.

4 weeks does sound like a long time when you are used to having your own space. Can you not ask him that maybe once a week for the 4 weeks he is home he takes your ds out from dawn to dusk to give you a day to yourself.

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No, it'll be great! Tell him that it is a great opportunity for him to do some real bonding stuff with ds, so send them out together most days - a few big trips to the zoo etc but otherwise off to the park or looking for worms in the garden or wherever (don't know how old your ds is) - you'll have more time to yourself when they are out, and help with eg bathtime when they are in, and meals together as a family - it will really be nice, I'm sure.

I had my DH at home for three months recently when he took an employment break to spend time with our new son, nice sentiment I know, but he just saw it as time to sit around, play on the computer and generally not be very helpful!! I had to keep reminding him that he was in fact at home to be with our son and not just enjoy himself, leaving all the care up to me!!! I do obviously love him to bits and it was great to have him around more and it was good for him to experiences all those 'firsts' with DS, but when he went back to work it was bliss!! Men, what can you do with them!!!

My dh is at home all the time as he works from home and I do know what you mean . He's really happy to be seeing so much of ds and I am happy for him but there are no clear boundaries between us in terms of space and time and it does have a bearing on our relationship.
I would do what the others have suggested: lots of free days or half days for you if possible and think of the rest as a very long weekend!