Drinking

[tarazuka]

Is it wrong to like a drink now and again? I dont drink at all during the week and only have a 'proper' drink once every fortnight, admittidly when I do drink I never know when to stop and go on a bit of a binge (although I never cause trouble or hurt anyone) so is it really a problem if I "over-indulge" once a fortnight and never around the kids?

My DP is trying to make me out to be an alcoholic because when I start I find it hard to stop and if there is drink in the house, Ill drink it but like I said its once a fortnight, I dont buy drink during the week or EVERY weekend and I dont get drunk around the kids so is it really a problem? DP seems to think so...

What's your opinion?

It would make me uneasy to be with someone who drank and didn't know when to stop. I expect he doesn't like the way you change under the effect of alcohol (don't mean you do anything looney but very drunk people are completly different to the way they are sober). Wouldn't like it in my partner to be honest.

How about limiting the amount of drink in the house when you're going to have something? Is that a realistic option for you? Drinking when you're out might be more of a problem. Who is going to exercise the control and get you to stop then? He'd be in the role of a policeman which you wouldn't like once you're a bit drunk.

Some of my friends are like this. I don't think it's a major problem to be honest, as long as you're not out of control or horrible when drunk

If you aren't hurting anyone and it helps you let off steam now and again I don't think it's a problem. I have lived with an alcoholic and I know they are all different but if you aren't out trying to get a drink every day are you really an alcoholic? Can you ask your DP what it is he finds difficult about your drinking when you do? Maybe it's financial..? Maybe he just doesn't like you going out? Have you been nasty to him when you've been drunk? Does he drink at all?

Being an alcoholic is nothing to do with the frequency of drinking or the volume it is the compulsion to keep going once you start and the effect it has on your life Many alcoholics don't drink every day

I often overdo it when I drink - I don't drink huge quantities but do seem to get drunk pretty easily. My dh quite likes it i think as I am generally such an anxious/up tight person. I have to say that from time to time it bothers me, not him.

I guess it could be a problem if it is affecting your relationship and dp doesn't like it - rather than the act itself?new

I often get very drunk on wine but not so much on others drinks. Wine gets me everytime and i often dont know when to stop, normally after 2 glasses and i am really drunk and it is too late.

Cant suggest anything else but i sont get out often andpeople think it is hilarious

two glasses of wine would do it for me too. I often mix white with fizzy water or drink beer.

Working professionally in an area that deals with this, I'm afraid that binge drinking even if it is just once a fortnight can be as bad as drinking heavily regularly - I suppose it depends on just how much you are drinking in one go and if you have any difficulty recollecting the things that happened whilst you were drinkling. If you are drinking to the point of feeling out of control and having difficulty remembering things the next day, then I would say that this is a problem. I would say that you need to look at how you are feeling immediately before you start drinking. If there are painful emotions, then this indicates that yopu are drinking for the wrong reasons. I wonder whether you are bottling things up (excuse the pun!)