Have name changed.
Ok, here goes. Dh and I got married 8 months ago and promptly separated 3 months later. He has moved back to his parents and been there for the last 5 months. We have been seeing each other once or twice a week for the past 3 months, trying to work things out, although we have been avoiding having any conversations about us. As a result of not really talking about things I have no idea what he wants, although when we spend timettimetogether it seems like we both want to make things better. We speak on the phone every day and text a few times and things have been going well.
However, I am now fed upnof this situation. I think we need to decide whether we are going to make a go of things or not and stop dancing around. He seems perfectly happy to carry on as we are though. I thinking is his dream scenario actually, as I am still in the picture, but he doesn't have to deal with the day to day realities of married life and can basically do what he wants when he wants living with his mum and dad. Their house is much closer to his work, can see friends whenever he wants etc.
I have to admit that that side of things is a real plus to me too, I do quite enjoy lots of aspects of living alone. But at the same time, we are married and I love and miss him greatly. Also, I haven't even told my parents he has moved out yet, they will be besides themselves. I really as hoping I never have to!
Our wedding day was amazing and he was the most smitten groom anyone has ever seseen, I can't believe it fell apart so quickly after that. He moved out over nothing and at the time I think we both thought it was going to be for one night and he would be back home. Stubbornness on both parts and hectic work schedules have meant that it has been dragged on for this long.
The problems is I think we may have ruined everything for good. How are we ever going to recover fromvthis ridiculous situation? How much longer do we play this game until we give up. I want to make it work but that takes two people and I'm not sure he can be bothered.
Thrown in to the mix is a relationship with a work college that he has developed that I am not entirely happy about. I don't know if anything is going on. She is married, has a one year-old and I have been told in lots of details that she is trying for another baby with her husband and buying a new house, etc. But Dh knows ridiculous amounts of information about her, they musttalk about everything. He even knowsbwhen she is ovulating for Christ's sake!!!! He sees her regularly outside of work, even when he says he is too busy to see me.am I just jealous orbits something going on? When we met for lunch last week he mentioned her name 11 times! Seriously, I counted!
I don't know what to do now. We had an argument via text yesterday about how inappropriate I thinkbtheir relationship is and now I feel like we have taken massive steps backwards inbthe progress we were makingbtongetting back on track.
Why advice or just slap some sense in to me. Be brutal, I can take it....well, probably not but I need to hear it!