My husband is drinking in secret

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I'm a regular on here - please don't out me if you recognise me as I don't want to link this post to my usual name.

My DH drinks a lot. It's been like this on and off since we met. He's a happy, stupid and occasionally boring drunk. Not violent - just stupid and clumsy and tedious.

He's recently started doing what my XH used to do - drinking in 'secret'. He's got bottles and boxes of wine (badly) hidden in his office, where he spends most of his time. My XH was an abusive drunk and he used to do this, except he drank cider and became more abusive.

I know what I have to do - I can't stick around to watch him kill himself. I'm revising for exams (mature student) and have decided to move out after they are finished in May.

Please tell me to do it and not stick around waiting for things to change. And if anyone's got a hug spare that'd be awesome.

Why didn't you leave last May, OP? The reason I ask is not to lecture you but to make sure you don't fall into the same trap this year.

I would just go. Let things sort themselves out afterwards, but May is a bloody long time to go on like this.

My DF drank from his teens until he was 70 and too lazy/ill to walk into the town to get his drink.

Don't hope he will stop. Perhaps your leaving will make him decide to do something about it, but prob not.

Focus on yourself, don't wait until this May to go. I hope you get lots of support around you.

(Hug)) from me too a year on from your initial post, I am sorry OP.

What SGB said

And please try al anon. They won't try to persuade you to stay. It might help you work out why you are attracted to men with drink problems.

Good luck with the exams. I hope this is the start of a whole new life for you.