My 28yo dd has been in a relationship with an abusive man for three years now. They have split up numerous times.
He is manipulative, controlling and nasty. My dd has borderline personality disorder so has problems with self esteem amongst other problems.
Right from the beginning of their relationship he has broken her down, telling her if she wears make up she looks like a man in drag, commenting on her size, her hairstyle, everything. He has systematically broken her down. She has caught him trying to arrange dates with other women, leering at women while telling her what he'd like to do to them. He grows/deals cannabis, he is violent and she admitted to me recently that he raped her analy.
She finished the relationship a few weeks ago after being told that he cheated on her. Since then he's bombarded her with abusive texts. She met a man that her ex knows vaguely and her ex warnedhim off. He found out that One of his friends had been at my dds house and promptly went off and punched him in the face and breaking his nose and concussing him.
It breaks my heart seeing her being treated like this. She went back to him a week ago, i was very upset and angry with her for doing this and we argued about it. She has a 7yo son and i'm so worried about him.
Anyway, she ended it again yesterday and he immediately started being abusive again. He also sent abusive texts to me, accusing me of being a bad mother, generally being very nasty. He knows that i hate him and will never accept him in my dds and dgs lives.
My dd is going to go to WA, they will be better able to help my dd make sense of her feelings for him, i'm too emotionally involved but i want to support her. I'm terrified she'll go back to him.
Any advice.