Lovely DP/DHs who weren't your 'type' initially..

[tiptop2]

I've just started dating a guy who I met online who wouldn't normally be my type at all, a couple of inches shorter than me, different backgrounds and upbringing, he's divorced with 2 kids, I've never been married, no kids....but we have so much in common, make each other laugh loads and think we have similar values etc which are important to me.

I just keeping thinking he's not my type, he's not my type...this can never work! But I think it might have a chance. Just wanted to hear nice stories about meeting your DH/DP who wasn't what you had in mind for who you'd end up with but turned out to be the love of your life!

Now I feel I've jinxed this, sorry tiptop2, as flurp says sometimes there is justifiable annoyance and ill-feeling, there are two sides to every story!

The trouble is like any emotional baggage we carry it can have serious implications for the next relationship, ie how he views women and any future plans to have a family with another woman.

I am not saying for a moment this will be the case but it can mean that access arrangements can be fraught, especially if both parties hold a grudge or play the DCs off against the other.

RafflesWay you did well there, chose a winner in DH.

Donkey - no probs. It's actually good. I have a tendency to get far too excited at the start of relationship and go in all guns blazing...a timely reminder just to keep a bit back and keep my emotions in check until I've got to know him a lot better! Thanks all..I really hope he turns out to be a good 'un like all of your lovely DH/DPs xx

its a standing joke that my oh isnt my type

its the first thing i said to him in person

quick background history - was with my previous partner 19 years i met him at nearly 19, lived together and finally got married on our 15th anniversary - sadly he suffered from severe depression and committed suicide a month after our 4th wa - almost 2 years ago - leaving me a widow at 37 :(

8mths later i met my now oh, friend of friends, we were friends -wasnt looking for a new man - talked for ages on phone/fb/texts as friends and got on so well but when met up for drinks as friends i said he wasnt my type

carried on being friends/talking etc

month later, met again as friends for xmas drinks, and several glasses of wine later, serious snogging

basically the rest is history - he still isnt my type, though tbh my type i last looked at men was a teenager

we are very different, he calls me posh bird, he says he got dragged up via council estate - looks wise and personality he is very different from dh

a year later , we live together, i totally adore him, he did the one thing my friends/family couldnt do - make me smile and repair my shattered heart - i guess he must be my type .......