dh has just told me he is not happy and not sure if he wants to leave

[2anddone]

Hi dh and I have been married 7 years and have had our ups and downs. I have caught him out cheating twice and even though I have taken him back I have kept up my barriers in case it happens again.
recently we have been getting on ok we never argue, though rarely talk about anything other than the dc. Today dh told me he doesn't know if he is happy anymore and if he wants to stay. As he feels I have my own life with the children and he wouldn't be missed if he wasn't here. I honestly don't know what to do, he has now gone to work but has taken his wedding ring off. I do love him but we have been together 20 years so surely we maybe won't have as much in common as we used to? I am really scared we are going to fuck our dc up if we separate. Please give me some advice

2anddone
My h told me that he wasnt happy in October. He left 1 month ago (I finally had enough and got the courage to ask him to leave).

You will see that he has checked out in his head and will get colder and colder towards you. That hurts more than you can imagine.

When he took his ring off I felt a physical pain in my heart.

We had been like you and not argued for the last 2years. I thought it was because we were secure and settled.looking back I can see it was because I had given up.

I too thought that the dc hadnt noticed anything. The 13 yr old ds told me that he didnt think that his df "was really nice" to me and ds (9)asked me "if d had been a good husband would he still be with us?"

Back in October I thought I was going to die without my dh.

5 months later...I'm still alive

My problem was that I didnt have a bottom line. I found it a month ago and now I am working on some self esteem too!

Good luck xx