Over

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I told dp the other day it was over i even told people i rl.But i dont thinks he believes me,he thinks he be extra nice to me and we will be ok.But not this time ive had enough.And i dont love him,havent for a few years.

How do i make him aware im serious.I found him on dating sites again and its the last straw.I cheated on him and he doen it back but thought we were over it.

Turn 'over' into something more concrete. Actions speak louder than words Ask him to leave or make him move out or leave yourself. If 'DP' means you're not married do you have children? Any shared assets or property that will need to be dealt with? A shared rental agreement that he should be removed from?... People like CAB or solicitors can be very useful for that kind of thing, also other practical matters surrounding finance and accommodation. Move things towards being independent with or without his agreement. Eventually he'll take you seriously.

Maybe he just doesn't want to believe it at the moment, if that's the case I wouldn't want to rub his nose in it and do anything 'mean' just to prove we are over, it will sink in over time.

Its my house been together 22 years and 5 children.I dont want to go down the route of Soliciters yet and im in Ireland.

Even if he only gave me some space at least i could make up my mind properly.

So tell him to leave. Force the issue. Pack the bag for him and show him the door. Don't take no for an answer. You may not want to go the solicitors route but, if he doesn't want to go of his own volition, that's really the only option you have left.

Yes ask him to leave. Stay in your bedroom during the evenings until he has gone. Take your own space, if he will not give it to you. Compose a broken record statement and repeat it to him whenever he tries to talk you round.

I'm sorry but its definitely over.
I'm really sorry, it is definitely over.
Yes I understand you still love me and think it can work, but I don't agree, I'm sorry, it is definitely over.

And walk away. And go out, go upstairs, get in the bath, go to your friends, got o the gym, go for a walk etc.
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He knows i dont love him as he broke down one night and asked me whyi dont love him.

Now i have to say we got together young and he always made my heart skip a beat.
The lightbulb moment came after the last baby had a c section and he just ignored my calls.Left me crying and went back to work the day after i came home.
Felt like i had no support.That was 2years ago i didnt wanna make any rash decisions so left it till now.
Yes so best thing just repeat like aa broken record

In order to be taken seriously, you have to take yourself seriously. If you're 100% convinced this is the right path to take have the courage of your convictions and do what it takes. When you say you don't want to go to solicitors yet that sounds like you're hedging. If he sniffs doubt, you'll never get shot.

I think think of that even if i go to Soliciters he will take me more seriously and you are right i will never be shot.
Think i will go to Soliciters after Easter when they are in school if hes not out by then.