Partner moved out yesterday, I'm distraught. We have a daughter. Help me cope please

[Oxen]

Just that really.
He moved out yesterday, we ended our relationship 2 weeks ago, he's gone to live with his mum and I'm really struggling.
We were together for 5 years and we have a 2 yr old daughter, I moved 250 miles away from everything I knew to be with him and now he's gone and I'm here on my own with our daughter.
I can't move back home as she needs to see her dad and I don't want to make their relationship difficult. I also have a good job and she's in a really good nursery.
Even though I instigated this after our argument on mothers day I still have this hole in my stomach, I feel empty and alone and the thought of him not loving me anymore is unbearable at this stage.
What are the next steps for me? How can I keep motivated and happy for the sake of our daughter? How the hell do I cope?
Thanks in advance.

Seems like a lot of bad stuff there. Much similar to my situ, albeit he's great with dd and was SAHD for her first year. All the bad stuff, he does to me but somehow I allow it and want him back!

You don't need him in your life or your kids for that matter. There's a lot of negative things going on in that relationship. Tell me, does he switch the charm on easily, make you doubt yourself? You're doing the right thing you know, what day are you on and how often do you see him since the split?

Well done Dot! That's amazing! Good girl :)

Another old gimmer here dd1 is 20 dd2 is 3.

Brandy I might have the wrong end of the stick, but reading a previous post I wondered if you are in the south west?

Oxen (((((((((((((hug)))))))))))) have as many as you need.

He is and he does! It's like a light switch the way he switches his charm off and on. He even makes his eyes twinkle on command ffs. He twists everything around in my head so I end up thinking well what was I making a fuss about in the first place and I'm the one who needs to stop moaning and start being grateful for what I do have. I actually believe(d) that I should show him I appreciate what he does for me and the dc more. Argh I am a twat sometimes what was I thinking, sure he is all fur coat and no knickers really. (but tiny voice in my head saying well he is on hard times atm and if you just stick by him things will get better and change)

Thanks for this thread OP glad to get it all out!

beingawife I am why?

Brandy
Have pm'd you.

OP it's only been since wednesday, but thats almost a week although he did stay over friday night cos I am a twat

I JUST WANT MY HAPPY EVER AFTER FFS and the white picket fence.

Nothing wrong in wanting that Brandy

Achieving it however seems to be nigh on impossible