Bedroom issue

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Just wondered if anyone has experienced having a higher sex drive than their man and what (if anything) they did to solve the problem?

Eight months?! What do you mean you can't imagine being without him? You've not been together five minutes.

If this is a problem now it won't get any better. You should still be in the honeymoon period. Imagine five years from now. He won't be wanting any at all then - I'd put money on it.

Cut your losses op. Plenty more fish in the sea.

oh dear, only 8 months? This doesn't bode well at all.

Well the thing is Fuckitthatlldo I really love the guy! If I didn't have feelings for him it would be a no brainer and I'd walk.
I brought it up with him last week, and things are improving :-) so fingers crossed that our libido's can synchronize back to how they were a couple of months back and this was just a blip.

Have you namechanged?

Agree with the others that 8 months is nothing. But it really isn't a good sign if he's gone off sex this early, or wants it only once or twice a month. I very much doubt he'll want it more; there's more chance of him wanting it less.

I'm amazed that children at college never come to stay at your home in their holidays. What do they think of this bloke?

that's alright then

My Dh has a higher sex drive than me. He told me he felt unloved and unattractive, I understood and now whenever I feel very physically attracted to him, I let him know, it's not always or even often somewhere appropriate but at least I can share the want. I also ensure that we do it at least once a week, and that I initiate it. This sometimes means I come on to him when i'm not entirely in the mood, but it always gets me in the mood before things are , er, up and running. I have tried to change. It was really hard for me not to be resentful, and to make myself do these things. But I thought it was worse for him to feel unloved than for me to feel inconvenienced by having sex, that doesn't sound great, but it's saved our otherwise perfect marriage. Why doesn't he feel able to compromise? It hurt me to hear that dh felt unwanted. I wanted to fix that (not to the extent of lying back and thinking if England, but to make myself m make more of an effort and find a middle ground- he'd still have much more by choice, but doesn't feel unwanted iykwim)