This is trivial, right...?

[TheCautionaryWhale]

Asked my new partner last night if he'd been seeing/kissed/slept with anyone else whilst we were dating (but not together & not once we'd slept together etc, which was a month after we started seeing each other). He said he drunkenly kissed someone, (I didn't ask, as it didn't seem relevant).

Thing is, I can't help wondering who it was. I can't ask now can I? I'd look like a fruit loop, as we were only dating. I just want the thought to stop wondering into my mind I guess (he also met up with his ex who he wasn't totally over around the same time, just the once, but doesn't know I know).

Oh lordy that does sound silly but I needed to get it out somehow so I could just get on with things!

I could easily bring it up with him but I didn't want to if it was going to rock the boat, over something trivial.

Feel better now anyway.

(we nearly got together the year before but this same ex was there around at the same time. They then stayed together for a year & we met at a mutual friend's do, after they'd split, & hit it off. So it was a little messy in ways anyway. That's why I felt weird about the whole thing, rather than any of his other exes).

You need to be very careful in only asking questions you want to hear the answer to. Has this information made your life any better? If you are saying it was none of your business as to what he was doing when you were just 'dating' then you shouldn't have asked

I'm with MidnightMasquerader. Why ask a question if you're not prepared for the answer? Sometimes it's best not to know.