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What the Heck is he playing at??????

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Amberz · 16/03/2013 21:19

Okay so met a guy 4 years ago we clicked straght away found out we had mutual friends from our past , we date we have fun the sex is fantastic , he is was working away and had applied for a job abroad due to be made redundant he gets the job abroad , we part as friends he keeps in touch we see each other every 4 months , then his job is made permanent overseas so we obviously had to end it. The 2 weeks ago he gets in touch tellingme about his life over there, he has a partner they more or less live together , I am happy for him, he wants to see me when he is back for a few weeks soon, I told him No way as he has moved on and I am not a person to go behind ayones back , he says okay now he keeps texting me with little messages ..............what does he expect for me to jump?, I must explain it was very strong between us I have not felt like this in years!, it was hard when he left he says his partner is just a friend ?? I dont know what to think !

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LessMissAbs · 16/03/2013 21:23

Tell him to take a running jump!

Lucyellensmum95 · 16/03/2013 21:26

Block his number from your phone, delete him from facebook don't be his booty call

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Amberz · 16/03/2013 21:34

Lucy not on FB thankfully sorry what is a Booty call?

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LemonPeculiarJones · 16/03/2013 21:51

Booty call is when someone uses someone else just for sex. So getting a phone call at midnight from a pissed bloke obviously means they just want some action.

Similarly, being pursued by an ex who is in a relationship, whilst he's briefly in the country, could be seen as a booty call. He's being blatant!

The partner is just a friend?! Don't be used OP.

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Amberz · 16/03/2013 21:54

I see it is so hard when I had such strong feelings for him not to be stirred up by attentions , why are relationships never easy !

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HollyBerryBush · 16/03/2013 23:14

If you meant anything to him, distance would be nothing. How do you think military marriages survive?

Be thankful he left to go abroad when he did - or you would be the one being cheated on - he's an opportunist.

tribpot · 16/03/2013 23:24

But this isn't a relationship. This is an ex with an itch (hopefully only metaphorical and not literal).

It won't help you get over your feelings for him. Delete, delete, delete.

Cherriesarelovely · 16/03/2013 23:33

Well he can't have you both can he? I think the fact that he is asking you to meet up when he comes back is not a great indication of his character iyswim. I wonder if his partner thinks she is just a "friend"?! It would be totally different if he had texted you to say that he realised he'd made a big mistake, really wanted to make it work with you and had left the other woman.

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Amberz · 17/03/2013 08:33

I hear you all! I know I know he is at it and I will not have any contact with him I should know better but sometimes people can really get to you especially when I am not in a relationship , yup he is an opportunist that is putting it nicely as you say if I meant anything to him he would ditch this other woman , feel like a twit even talking about it now , but a BIG thankyyou MNs for helping me get perspective on this twit!.

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