Hi everyone, another tale of woe for a saturday night! I've just been ditched by a guy who I thought was a dead cert and I'm, shall we say, rather cut up about it. Bit of background, knew him from uni and then about a year ago he randomly started talking to me. Turns out he'd always had a thing for me. We dated briefly last year but a combination of the long distance between where we live (two hours by train) and my baggage from my last relationship (suicidal abusive punchy ex boyfriend who ruined my life) lead me to end things after 3 actual dates over 4 months. Fastforward to october last year when he gets back in touch again. Things rekindle but this time things are different. I'm ready to go for it as we're both looking to move into the same town by the end of this year, making the distance problem a shortish term one, and I'm finally in a place emotionally to really make a go of things. He seems lovely, facebook messaging turns into daily texting, we have loads in common and so much to say to each other. Eventually this ends up as phonecalls every night before bed and dates being arranged, which go really well. I've just come back from a week spent at his (which he suggested) where I was introduced to his family. Suddenly today when I try and arrange our next date he tells me he's getting deja vu and panicking that things will end up as they were before. He says that he doesn't want to start a relationship with the distance because there's pressure for it to turn serious (even though he's spent the last three months texting and calling me and arranging things with me as you would a girlfriend!) and he's worried he'll get annoyed at not being able to see me.
Needless to say I am very confused and hurt and feel like I've had the rug pulled massively. He's been nothing but sweet and affectionate and desperate to see me/ talk to me/ spend time with me and now all of a sudden he's just gone. I'm so, so hurt and kind of lost right now, need help understanding from any ladies who have been in the same position