Fuming! What do you think?

[Rocklover]

Yesterday my 'D'H allowed his alcoholic father (who has previously been banned for drunk driving) and who he had a fist fight with last year for this very reason; drive 16 month DD from Victoria to Park Royal, London to meet my Dad (at least an hours drive) with no child seat (they don't have one).

DH is now being arsey with me for being annoyed at him, apparently they had no choice as it was raining, what about a black cab to the tube station? I know that no harm has been done this time, but it could have been; only 3 weeks ago a car smashed into the back of my Dad's when DD was in the back in her seat, and this was when he was waiting at a roundabout.

I feel like shaking him, doesn't he care??? Also I posted this on another site and some of the ladies there seemed to think that it wasn't that big a deal and that DH did what he had to. Am I silly to be upset?

Particularly shocked by 'apparently they had no choice as it was raining'. Suggests rather confused set of priorities!
Rocklover I agree with everyone here you were quite right to be angry.

Only new black cabs have child seats. They're in the middle, in the back. I think they'd be ok for a 16-month-old, they're only good for forward-facing.

Also, the Sharon (VW I think) has built-in very nice car seats, two of them at least. One of our local minicab firms has Sharons, so we use them for all airport trips, so we don't have to take a carseat.

I'd be much angrier about the drunk driver than the car seat, most cabs don't have car seats. I can see the argument that dh's angry with himself for being put in that position. I know that feeling very very well.

If you have a pram get a wheelchair accessible cab, and they can clamp the pram down as they do for a wheelchair user. I found this very useful after managing to walk miles to town a few weeks after a CS and reaslised I couldn't walk back home.