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you haven't cooked for 2 day's

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1996timeforchange · 16/03/2013 17:40

I want to throw a brick at his head ( not really, but the thought is,, ooooo!!)

Ate out last night and he went and got take away the night before, but normally i'm waiting on everyone hand and fist, i just made a comment ( cause he's been sat on his butt all day watching sport on the tv) i've not done much either today tbh, so i said to my little one , i'll cook dinner in a minute cause i don't suppose anyone else will, he spat straight away you haven't cooked for 2 day's, he meant the dinner, but the fact i still provide everyone with breakfast, lunch, endless cup's of tea and snack's, i could have in that second bloody killed him,, TWAT!!! now i've said it, Rant over, thank you in anticipation, i feel so much better for getting it out, may have a glass of wine to celebrate, ( i wonder if i call him if he's do it for me

OP posts:

tribpot · 16/03/2013 20:19

Btw even though you're a stay-at-home mum, you don't have to be making every cup of tea and snack in the house, you know. I'd make sure this point is clear at home if nothing else.

Buzzardbird · 16/03/2013 20:23

Who said she was a SAHM?

kalidanger · 16/03/2013 20:31

1996 You could learn some stuff if you stick around. I'm just saying. Also, there's this.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 16/03/2013 20:34

I thought exactly the same as Trills actually. If you do not want people to get 'over involved' you shouldn't have posted on mn.

However I'm glad he's cooking and you have a glass of wine but I wouldn't make comments like that to your child. Male or female it would annoy the other partner imo, very passive aggressive. If you'd like him to cook, just ask. Do not play games.

tribpot · 16/03/2013 20:57

Buzzardbird - she referred to herself as a housewife.

Buzzardbird · 16/03/2013 21:12

My apols tribpot

OxfordBags · 16/03/2013 21:44

The apostrophes! Make them stop!

rhondajean · 16/03/2013 21:59

What was Thr purpose of posting then if you didn't want people to tell you he's being a dickwad?

This isnt how men behave btw. Not real men.

Spoilt selfish little boys perhaps, but most of us don't want to share our lives/have sex with a spoilt selfish little boy.

ballstoit · 16/03/2013 22:03

Odd op, very odd.

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/03/2013 22:05

Why is it on here it's not ok to be nice to your dh/p where as back in the real world.... most men have their dinner cooked the majority of the time, have their clothes washed, and generally get looked after. Nothing wrong with this as long as the BALANCE is right and as much as you give he gives back, be that in the same or other things.

BaldricksTurnip · 16/03/2013 22:12

So you start a thread saying what a dickhead your dh is, then get pissed off when everyone agrees that he is in fact a dickhead. What did you want people to say?

sarahjaye · 16/03/2013 22:19

I think the OP is a rather silly, passive aggressive individual. Not really worth much more comment than that.

borisjohnsonshair · 16/03/2013 22:19

Plurals don't need apostrophes. Days not day's, snacks not snack's. You might as well learn something while you're ranting.

stargirl1701 · 16/03/2013 22:45

No. Most people share household chores. DH stacks dishwasher and I empty it. I put laundry in the machine and he hangs it on the airer. Last up makes the bed. Night about for DD's bedtime routine.

I don't know anyone who still lives like it's the 1950s.

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 16/03/2013 22:56

"Plurals don't need apostrophes. Days not day's, snacks not snack's. You might as well learn something while you're ranting."

Says borisjohnsonshair

badinage · 16/03/2013 22:58

This thread has got nothing to do with anyone blaming someone for 'being nice' to their partners and in many people's 'real world' chores are shared on the basis of who's got the time and ability to do them, not the person's gender.

The OP was talking about waiting on everyone on a day when the 2 adults in the house were having a day off from their normal jobs of WOHP and SAHP. Or is it just WOHPs that get 2 days off at the weekend in this real world that I don't recognise?

ChestyLeRoux · 16/03/2013 23:06

Most men seriously dont get their clothes washed, looked after amd dinner on table all the time. They look after you just as much, and do all those things to.

ChipTheFish · 16/03/2013 23:06

I think the OP intended this to be a lighthearted thread. Don't think she expected to be told that her husband is an abuser and that she is a doormat.

ChestyLeRoux · 16/03/2013 23:07

Im sorry but if your doing all those things and then your dh says that then you are being a doormat.

emsibub · 16/03/2013 23:08

Haha OMG! OP I can't believe the way this has gone. I got your rant n made me smile a little. Can't believe how everyone has reacted, like everyone just hangs around on here ready to dissect people's men / relationships. Strange

chickydoo · 16/03/2013 23:11

Leave the bastard

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 16/03/2013 23:12

I agree badinage.

When my husband was working and I at home with the babies, I did what I could during the day (which usually wasn't a lot as looking after a baby is a full time job) and we split chores equally when he was at home. I'm quite surprised people do so much actually! But then my husband had lived by himself before we got together so he knew how to cook, clean, iron etc...maybe that's it?

badinage · 16/03/2013 23:19

Bad decision and some misjudgement by the OP then. I'm sure there are places on the web where an OP like this would be greeted with guff about men being like clueless little boys who just want to be mothered, but that's hardly likely on a site where most of the posters actually respect men and refuse to treat them as being less capable than a child at receiving direct requests for someone to make the dinner.

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