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Where do I go?!

82 replies

Username123 · 15/03/2013 19:56

After a year of dealing with my daughters father and his mother's issues and general control freak behaviour, tonight I received a call saying that they had discussed it and had decidedly that my daughter would be better off living with his mother, they are on the way round and could I have her bags packed.

Well, her bags are packed, as are mine and I am sitting in McDonalds not knowing what the fuck to do or where to go.

I have no living family members and don't want to go to a friends in case he finds me there.

I have £50 to my name until I can get to a bank tomorrow morning.

Obviously there is a shitload of backstory to this, but where can I go right now that would be safe?

I'm in east London in case that's relevant/helpful?

OP posts:
ElectricSheep · 15/03/2013 22:00

Good luck OP, will be thinking of you. Hope things get sorted next week.

elvislives2012 · 15/03/2013 22:02

Good luck OP. Glad you've got some support. Thinking of you xxx

DameFanny · 15/03/2013 22:06

Oh phew Grin. Well done. So happy to hear you're being looked after - and women's aid will be able to help - even if they don't have refuge space they'll be able to help you with access to other services, and people in similar boats to make you feel less alone Smile

Awks · 15/03/2013 22:09

well done you - here's to the start of a better life for you both. Keep in touch on here and tell us your exciting future news xxxxx

StitchAteMySleep · 15/03/2013 22:10

Well done username, sorry not to pm you back earlier, sick kids needed me. I have messaged you the Housing number for your local council.

So relieved the Police were helpful and that you and your dd have a roof over your head tonight.

elportodelgato · 15/03/2013 22:12

Username I am in east London too, if you need a hand hold tomorrow or in fact anytime then PM me, I am around. You are one BRAVE woman, I wish you luck, please don't hesitate to ask for help anytime

Slainte · 15/03/2013 22:12

Well done, hopefully this is the start of your great new life. It's brilliant that you have shown your daughter what is not acceptable in a relationship.

piprabbit · 15/03/2013 22:19

You might not feel brave - but you have been very, very brave and you should be proud of yourself.
Good luck.

Viviennemary · 15/03/2013 22:24

I had to read your post a few times before it sank in. And then I realised your DD was only a baby and your DH and his mother intended to take her from you. You have done the right thing to seek police protection from this pair of nutcases. I hope you get things sorted out soon.

GrumpyKat · 15/03/2013 22:27

Glad you are safe with your little one. Sleep well and good luck for tomorrow.

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borninastorm · 15/03/2013 22:47

I don't know you but I'm so proud of you. You've done the right thing and your dd has a strong, brave mum that she'll be able to look up to as she grows.

I am so pleased to hear the police have been amazing for you. We often only hear bad things about them.

Stay strong, the future's yours and your dd's.

JassyRadlett · 15/03/2013 23:03

OP, your daughter is so lucky to have a mum like you. So glad the police have been helpful and the right steps are being taken.

Original poster
Username123 · 16/03/2013 08:43

Thank you again for all your lovely replies.

For the first time ever DD slept through the night, so I'm taking that as her approval for what I'm doing (nothing to do with the fact she went to bed 3 hours later than usual!).

I have a lot to do today, but just wanted to say thank you again.

OP posts:
beachyhead · 16/03/2013 09:28

Well you've got a busy day ahead, but first day of the rest of your lives... I know it's a cliche but its true...

Good luck and keep in touch. We are all standing behind you in a long line, willing you forward Grin

BubblegumPie · 16/03/2013 09:58

Good luck today! Smile

HeySoulSister · 16/03/2013 10:03

Gooduck from me too!!

peedoffbird · 16/03/2013 10:07

Wow you're amazing! Take care today and let us know how you're doing x

ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 16/03/2013 10:08

Best of luck and very well done for your immediate action Smile

moisturiser · 16/03/2013 10:13

So glad the police have been helpful.
This woman sounds utterly unhinged. I hope the solicitor is helpful and things get sorted. I can imagine you felt terrified last night!

TheSilveryPussycat · 16/03/2013 10:30

Brave people don't feel brave... they feel terrified and take action anyway.

You Are Brave.

WonderingPast · 16/03/2013 11:14

My very best wishes for today. I was impressed last night by how quickly you sorted things out, from packing to McDonalds to here to police to being asleep. Go you!

DameFanny · 16/03/2013 11:39

I think this deserves a [pom pom wave]. Well done you and dd Grin

Slainte · 16/03/2013 13:47

Thinking of you today, best of luck to you and your DD.

brianbennettfan · 16/03/2013 19:08

Wishing you all the luck in the world and every happiness in your new nutter-free life. God bless and take care. x x Thanks