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Too much to Ask?

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raenbow · 15/03/2013 16:39

Ok not wanting to drip feed, currently mid ( I hope) divorce with stbxh due to him deciding life just wasn't what he wanted , oh and he just happened to have met OW on business trip (But it was just a working relationship. yeah right!!)
Jump on 6 months got own house relocating from abroad and new job doing pretty well really. H now living 150 miles away ( his choice as self employed could live anywhere but guess it avoids bumping into anyone in Tescos)
This week DD was doing an event with MIL on his weekend . His plan to come Friday collect DS and take to his for w. end . MIL asked me to also help.
Sunday he calls and says he's now staying round here and will be going to event. I asked therefore could we arrange to do half each so we could both be there and help MIL.
He refused saying 'my' weekend/family/ time with kids etc etc ( sent 36 emails ranting over 24 hrs)!!!
In the end I said fine in interests of peace n harmony I wouldn't go. In meantime he spoke to his dad who had planned for the boys to have a day out. So I get text saying 'oh you can go now' so told him I'd made other plans ( sort of ) Blush
23 ranty emails later saying I'm selfish as he has been accommodating and I'm letting everyone down , he blocked all my email addresses!!!!
Ok not sure what I am asking Suspect I am cutting off my own nose a little but should I have given in knowing it was cos he got a better offer?? Or was I right sticking to my guns?

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BettySuarez · 15/03/2013 16:43

Do the best thing for your daughter. Ignore everything else.

Hissy · 15/03/2013 21:53

Don't allow Mr Can'tKeepItInHisPants to call the shots.

Ignore him and his rants.

Do what's best for you and for your DC. Everytime.

raenbow · 15/03/2013 22:45

But what is best ? To avoid more conflict from him yes , support DD and MIL or not let him have his own way ? They are all right ! Why he couldn't have just said ok let's split it and you do half ill do half. He treats the kids like his possession when it is his weekend despite promising never to use them. Grrrr why can he not be reasonable?

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