Help - advice on telling dd&ds about our separation

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I am just currently going through a painful separation with husband. We need to tell our two children tonight/this weekend dd is 9yrs and ds 7yrs. Any advice please apart from telling them how much we both love them, not their fault etc..... Thank you.

Think about how far you will go when they ask you why.

And be ready with as full a plan as possible about how they will still be able to see lots of both of you. Have you got a second property for whoever is moving out lined up?

Thanks AuntieStella He's moving to his mum's for the time being.

Be honest - or at least agree with each other about how honest you'll be.

Don't score points against each other and try to present as united a front as possible. Don't betray any anger between you, don't blame each other or accuse each other in front of the children. This will require a lot lip-biting but the most important this is the children - not either of you scoring points.

When the 'talk' is over, try to go out and do something normal as a family just to reassure them that you're not angry with them, it's not their fault and you can all be together.

When ExH and I told our DD, we all went together for a weekend and told her on the first night - spending the rest of the weekend doing family things just to reassure her. It worked really well for us.

Good luck.