Why can't it all be simple!

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I split up with my partner just over two months ago. It was messy & painful put bluntly, he didn't treat me brilliantly & acted like a cunt you know what after the break up.

Unfortnatly I have to see him every day. Its non optional and not something I can change right now.

Anyway I met someone new a few weeks ago, not expecting to meet anyone so soon, I definatly wasn't expecting to feel attracted to anyone else for a good long time. But I really like this guy, although its slow going, we've seen each other every day since we met but nothings 'happened' yet, given time I really think it will.

Today we both had a day off, so went into town to get some bits. Only to find later on we'd been followed by my ex.

Now the new guy is being funny & has cancelled our date tomorrow (which I totally get I'm freaked out too)

Why on earth does my ex feel the need to do these things? I don't care who he's with, and he was perfectly happy to end our relationship. I just can't understand why he feels the need to do this!!!

Arrrrgh!!!!

That's stalking isn't it?! I'd log it with the police in case things escalate.

I doubt they will he's done it before.

It is stalking, tho its pretty harmless with him just annoying.

Can't really get the police involved I rent stables off him on his farm & can't move the horses at the moment. Things would get even worse than they are.

You don't have to get them to take any action, and he doesn't have to know anything about it but you can ask them to record it in case you begin to feel threatened and need them to do something about it in the future.

It's not harmless if it's already scared off one potential boyfriend and is freaking you out. If this was a stranger following you around rather than your ex you'd have no hesitation calling the police... Make finding new stables your top priority now.

Its really not that simple about moving stables.

Im hoping to speak to him when I'm up there this evening after I found out he'd followed me yet again today & then turned up at my friends work.

Just don't understand the behaviour, there's no reason behind it. He's moved on & is with someone else there's no need for all this. He wanted the relationship to end not me, leaving me to deal with a pretty nasty mess that was left behind but that's a whole other story.

Was he like this when you were with him?

The stalking, I mean.

Not really, although he'd often turn up at my house un announced. He has a habbit of following his ex wife around & her new partners.

Its pretty harmless he's just being nosey. I don't feel threatened or anything. But it is annoying when its all a bit delicate with the new guy I've met.

Guess this is what village life is like. When you date the local farmer, & they all drink in the same pub its tricky trying to kee things on the quiet side. Was just hoping to keep things under wraps untill its kind of 'official' with the new guy.

Sounds like you are prepared to lump it though you don't like it.

If you're really 'freaked out' by this i don't think you can pretend it hasn't happened.