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Really struggling... Need some support please

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Confused40 · 13/03/2013 09:55

Hi,
Have posted a couple of threads on here in the last couple of weeks. I'm 28 weeks pregnant, and have just split up with my fiance. He was being abusive, don't really want to go into details.
I ended the relationship, as I couldn't deal with his abuse anymore. We spoke face to face and I made him label his behaviour towards me which was extremely painful. I've not seen him since this, which was about two weeks now.
Yesterday he texted me, begging me to give him another chance, and saying how sorry he was for behaving so badly. I've said that if I was so important to him he would not have behaved the way he did, and that he chose to behave the way he did.
So why am I feeling so sad??? He's behaviour has been appalling, and I hate him for not respecting me enough to treat me better. I have been feeling tearful today, am really struggling to put everything into perspective. I miss his company, feel guilty, lonely, feel sorry for him, and I'm scared of having his baby on my own without his support.
I know I've made the right decision to end the r/s, but when does it get easier?
I won't get back with him, I know that, but, I feel so sad and just want to cry and cry.......

OP posts:
Jux · 14/04/2013 12:22

Well, you needed to do it and you did it. I'm sorry it didn't give you any answers though. Will it have helped you close a chapter? That's the important thing for you.

Confused40 · 14/04/2013 12:45

I'm so very glad I did it! I feel so empowered, and feel like a new woman. Even though I was wary, and wondering if my heart would rule my head, it was so the right thing to do.
No, it didn't give me any answers, but it did show him how he had made me feel and how his actions had impacted me. Also, made me realise I don't ever want to see him again. And, he is aware that his actions have been recorded, and that I could have reported him, as advised, but didn't. Maybe thats why he felt sick? Who knows, who cares. Feel like I've got some power back in my life and it feel fantastic!

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KatieScarlett2833 · 14/04/2013 13:05

You go girl!
Glad it worked out for you Grin

Jux · 14/04/2013 13:10

Way to go, Confused!

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