okay sore subject (mother in laws)

[kathleenhannah1]

My partner and I have been together almost 4 years and I have always loved his parents. He is an only child and was very independent from an early age. (now 33) lol. So 7 months ago i gave birth to our beautiful daughter and noticed some shall we say changes. i feel very patronised by his mum, always commenting on my daughter as if she was hers (i've read that back and I sound completely bonkers) but for example the other day out of no where says "my first baby 33 and my 2nd baby 7months" and I couldn't even address this...then telling people "this is my only granddaughter but we'll be having another in 12 months. some might say its just a doting grandmother but i think there's a problem but i can't bring myself to say anything. they are just two examples i could write a book..anyone else experience anything like this or give me any tips on how to handle this?

I am not surprised to hear your DH is an only child. Can you blame his mum for being excited about the next generation, MIL is making the most of pouring all her grandma love into this grandchild because she can't be certain she'll have another.

Fwiw I don't think you're being unreasonable, possessive, well you're DD's mother. Greedy? perhaps. We all get territorial, try and think of MIL as a supporter, not a competitor. She is your DH's mum, ties run deep, don't expect him to condemn her.

You and DP are #1 in your child's life. MIL can't supplant you. Nana for mama? in her dreams. Use good humour.

Do you have family to come and visit? Won't your own family be cooing over your baby and saying the most ridiculous things? They love you and want a piece of your happiness. Be glad DD has extended family.