He's left. 14 years together, 2 kids, endless problems. I hope this is for the best.

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I'm not in tears. To be honest, I'm glad he's gone.

We have SOOOO many problems, the most significant of which are...

years of inequality over money and housework
internet affairs (him not me)
lies
his bad (very_temper
my passive aggressiveness.
the fact that after so much I recoil at his touch and feel his pain at this as well as my own.

Now the house has to be sold. Moneys separated. Maintenance and visitation agreed.

I've only just started a new job. What happens to single mums if they loose their job?

I'm torn between elation and terror.

Any words of comfort or advice would be most welcome about now.

Wishing you well in your new adventure

Why do you think you will lose your job? I am a single parent and have worked in the NHS for 14 years now. No reason you cant work.

Life moves in one direction. Its your time now. Time to discover who you are again. When i divorced my solicitor said to me its important to separate I from we. So much of time in a long relationship is spent catering for others needs it takes time to identify what your own are. My marriage was 11 years the DC were 1 and 3.

I cried the first day then not at all for three months then had a really tough facing life month. From then on in it got better. I'm a stronger happier person as a result. I think the DC are better off too.

Its been 6 years now. I'm remarried with a 2 yr old DD and life is good. I don't regret the divorce (he walked out as he was having an affair).

Tax credits still exist you can check out websites such as entitledto to see what benefits you could get. Most councils appear to still have a single person discount so its worth notifying them if you're still in the house and he's gone. Is child benefit in your name its another one to get moved over.