do any of you get this? it really pisses me off.
DH loves spending money. whenever he wants something (thinking in the last year a camera, flat screen monitor, sat nav, remote control car etc) he usually gets it, eventually. he always tells me what he is planning and we always argue, but after several weeks or months of arguing i end up caving in or he just gets what he wants. to be fair, for these 'luxuries' he pays for them out of his money but i still think they're extravegancies we don't need.
last year, i got a large bonus from our work that paid for the moving costs etc for the new house we've moved into and things for the house that we both wanted and chose. i didn't buy any treats for myself, my money goes on the family or the house, i have no hobbies as i don't have time working full time and looking after our son. i earn twice what he does but am careful not to throw this in his face.
i feel resentful that he still hankers after and gets treats that we don't need, and i feel extremely resentful that he always gets what he wants, he doesn't know the meaning of the word 'restraint' he has never said to himself 'no, i just can't afford/ justify it, so i'll forget about it.' he just whines and nags and moans and keeps reading the argos catalogue til he gets what he wants.
as i said, i'm fairly thrifty and he pays for this stuff himself and otherwise is faily thrifty so we're not in debt and it's not a big issue, but it just keeps happening again and again and it's become a point of principle for me now.
he now wants a gas bbq at £70, i say 'what's wrong with the old charcoal one?' but it' just not good enough for him.
he has said that he's glad i'm more thrifty than him as it keeps us in line, but it pisses me off that we always have to argue about these things in order to keep the finances in order, otherwise i'm sure he'd be a helluva lot worse.
any advice?