There's just no time!

[MahnaMahna]

DH and I have a beautiful 9 month old DD. Since she's been born we've had sex TWICE. At first I wasn't too bothered because we were both tired but it's getting ridiculous now.

DD goes to bed at 7:30-8 then we have dinner (we're starved by that time after work.) chill for an hour or so, then go to bed at 10:30 usually quite exhausted. DD wakes up at 6:30 and we all get up and get ready for work and things.

When do you find the time? We decided to try waking up at 6 this morning, giving us half an hour before DD wakes up. Only DH decided to stomp into the bathroom and blow his nose like a trumpet beforehand and woke DD up.

DH leaves for work at 8:15am and gets home at 5:30, at which point DD needs feeding her dinner and he wants to spend time with her. I feel like there aren't enough hours in the day!

Any advice? x

Don't wait until you go to bed! Have sex on the kitchen table before you eat dinner, get it on in the middle of the night, do it during the day when the baby naps at the weekend.

Blimey... lost count of the number of dinners that got ruined when nookie took priority to food. Replace 'chill for an hour' with 'snog for an hour' perhaps? As I remember, 9 month olds take pretty regular heavy naps.... there's another weekend window of opportunity.

Yes. Prioritize sex before dinner. Stay up later. Have dinner with her, all 3 together (we do this, it saves time/washing up and It's better to eat earlier anyway). Do it in the middle of the night half asleep. Accept that you will miss out on either sex or sleep,your choice!

BTW... you can actually have sex with a 9mo awake and/or present. They really don't mind :)

I am in the predicament that i cant just turn it on like a switch. I need some serious foreplay (which includes possibly being nice to each other for an entire day in the lead up)... I would suggest you find someone to babysit- he wines and dines you after work, then when you get home, baby is asleep, send sitter home... Bob's your uncle!

I guess if you need 8 hours sleep a night, this can be a problem!
DP and I have a 12 month old and 4 other kids between us. Life is chaos!
On average we will have 5 hours sleep: up at 6 to 6.30, he's home at 5.30 and I'm back at 7-ish with kids.
Bath, bed, housework, food, tidy. Then shower and bed. If, by some miracle, we are done by half 11 - it's on the menu!
We usually manage once a week, then twice at weekends, if not more.
It's a careful juggling act, but if you get out of the habit, it's easy to not bother.
If we could manage to get to bed by 10.30 every night, there would be a lot of it happening here!!

I feel your pain.

I need around 8 hrs sleep, a lot of foreplay and a serious amount of warm-up time.

DD is 2 and we all share a bedroom. We don't have a dining table, and the kitchen's the size of a postage stamp.

I think we need a night out!

It doesn't help that I've been diagnosed with exhaustion and generally struggle staying awake until 10:30 as it is! Weekends are off as I work :(

My Mum and Dad live in the next street but I'm a bit embarrassed by the fact if I ask them to have DD for an hour they'll probably know why!! x

Might try post-dinner later :/

:) Don't be embarrassed to ask your parents..... whether you'd like to believe it -they once probably had the same problem :)
You could say you want a few hours to get the cleaning/ironing done/you are both going to town....whatever you want really.
I know it's not the same but quickies see you through these times until things settle down and the luxury of time to make love returns.

Do you have a telly? Family viewing time should be renamed screwing time - misquoted from jilly cooper:)

When your dd goes to bed, run for the bedroom:) or kitchen... And on the sofa whilst watching tv? Go to bed a bit earlier and not to sleep?