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Recently separated and pregnant

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Dawnydavis · 08/03/2013 05:10

Hello Mumsnet,
I have just joined the site as I really need some advice.
My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years, had a daughter who is 2 and half. I suffered with post natal depression. He didn't really help me, get me to seek help and basically just swept it under the carpet. Eventually, I got help, but without his advice. I started to feel a lot better and things felt better between us. So I got pregnant again as I wanted a sibling for my daughter. I probably rushed into it. But the issues between him and I seemed to come back. He didn't seem to try, just avoided me, kept going out with his friends and not really helping me with our daughter. We rowed about all of this and throughout december '23 he was leaving, coming back etc. He officially left me on Xmas eve. I'm now 8 months pregnant with a 2 year old and he has deserted me. I found out he's been seeing another lady, early day, but he told me by a text message, said she made him happy again and that I had made him extremely unhappy. I'm devastated

OP posts:
Mummyofnearly2 · 01/04/2013 11:45

Hello again.

I am 6 days from my due date - rather scared...

Still no interest from hubby or his family regarding bump and what to do when she arrives. They don't even know the due date.

He is not paying any attention to his responsibilties. Says his flat is not baby proof...

His parents are 'giving me space because I've been so pissed off and unreasonable.' I find that disgusting.

I know he left because he couldn't handle family life so I don't know why I expect anything else other than what's happened...

He came to see my little girl for 5-10 mins on Easter sunday. He wanted to know where his things were that he'd left here!! His parents didn't see her at all. I really don't get it. He tries to organise to see her the same day, giving me minimum notice. He won't email in advance. He has no priorities apart from seeing his floozy and getting laid. I asked him to look after my daughter when I'm in labour and he said 'you'll have to bear with me as I maybe seeing his girlfriend' UNBELIEVABLE!!

On the plus side, I am all ready for the baby, feeling a bit 1more positive and finding things a lot easier. And my little girl is so wonderful!!

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