I'm not sure how many around here remember my story originally, as I think I'm more known now as part of the LTB crew myself 
but way, way back in 2009 I received a lot of help and support in understanding and eventually ending my relationship which was emotionally and financially abusive and very controlling. I left in the December of that year and although I was lucky not to have any doubts or waver, I was still intimidated by XP and would be nervous when he called etc.
Well, we haven't heard from him for 18 months now and X-MIL called this morning to say he'd asked for my number out of the blue. I said it was fine to give it to him (especially since I thought he had it anyway!) and then I put my phone on silent as I was at work. When I went on my lunch break I noticed I had a voicemail which I assumed was him, but decided to listen to it later as XMIL had asked me to call. We had a good chat and then I had to go back to work.
Anyway I've just listened to the message and it wasn't even him, but made me 
at how calm I realised I felt, when I spoke to XMIL earlier I said if/when he does get into contact with me, he'll have a bit of a shock I am not the terrified people-pleaser I was two years ago! Thanks to a combination of a lovely supportive DP, mumsnet and my job (retail ) I now have the confidence and know exactly how to take no shit and I am prepared for him!