A family member has recently left her H, and they have an 18mo who she has brought back to live at her parents with. Often on here I see lots of "do not leave the family home" type advice and whilst I would have advocated that, she was living nearly 100 miles away from all friends and family and always wanted to be back in this area.
Her then DH seems to have never wanted to be around these parts and has older DCs from before their marriage who are settled where they lived, and two of which lived with said family member and her DH.
Her DH has always been a total non parent imo, some of which I have posted about before - never bathed his dd, never once minded her for even an hour or took her anywhere, noever once responded to a single night feed. I wouldn't have lasted the 18 months she has.
I want to be able to offer her some practical advice along with support. What can I do, or say?