books to help my SIL

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she is in a volatile relationship, very on/off and when she speaks her mind, or lets anything be known to 'him' that she isnt happy he totally stonewalls her.

Was chatting to her today and from what she was saying this guy is an arse and she needs to get rid - they dont live together, which is good.

Just wanted to know what books you would recommend to make her stronger, not believe/apologise for things to make him 'come round'

2 weeks of no contact from him, he is very OTT, grand gestures, I love you, very early on... you all know what sort of bloke he is.

I thought about the Lundy Bancroft one, but couldnt remember the name. If anyone can give a list of books to help her see what sort of man he is and how she can be strong enough not to go back (again) I would be very grateful.

yes, I thought of that one, but couldnt recall the name.

Thanks, will suggest it for her. Any others?

"Living with the Dominator" by Pat Craven is another one for your SIL to read.

ok, have suggested the Lundy book. And hope she gets it.

Ive read some reviews of the Lundy book, but I have to say this guy isnt violent, he is sometimes aggressive in his tone, has little digs and then goes quiet - wont answer texts, phone calls and blanks her. Last time it was 10 weeks! and he has the ability to make her doubt herself and feel guilty for 'thinking certain things' or voicing her opinion.

She asked me today how to deal with her feelings for him, how to make it go away. I just said she had to be strong, get her things from his place (she has a key) and delete his phone number.

He's just not that into you. I bit of an obvious choice but it's really insightful

thanks tisleclerc I have told her about it, hoping she buys it soon.