I think I want to be alone

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I've name changed for this one just incase dp cottons on !

Been together 2yrs, lots of problems in the beginning with feeling insecure with him texting a women 'friend' and generally not communicating with me.

Seem to finally have things sorted, he is being reassuring and attentive and generally a nice guy.

I just don't know if I can be bothered anymore though.

Its silly things like he farts loudly constantly -on my head the other day! thought it was hilarious.
I have a gorgeous dog who lives with my ex and as my dp has a dog I cant ever have mine to stay with me whilst living with him.
Sex is frequent which is nice - but he does seem to forget that a women has needs to and him getting himself off and not considering me seems a bit one sided sometimes.
We don't do anything together, he is quite happy to stay in all the time, some Saturdays he's off to bed at 830pm

I have mentioned these things to him, but to be honest it's just who he is, and I don't expect to change him

I'm sure I sound really stupid but I needed to write it down and ask if any words of wisdom ? :)

I seem to be longing for my own space, but I'm worried about breaking away and sitting alone every night and regretting it .

Please any advice would be amazing :)

ugghhh, just leave him - vile vile vile how old is he? 12?

Pamela, don't you think that she might as well be on her own if her boyfriend goes to bed at 8.30 every night? Imagine if they had children - she'd be on her own every evening. What would be the point of living with someone?

Your DH sounds very disrespectful. Why do you put up with it?

Why are you paying for his food?

DHwould just say that that is who he is. His own dad does it when we go round. It just doesn't matter to them. Childishlyvthey find it amusing. I don't but then it's not the worst thing in the world.

The going to bed thing, if it was just someone being lazy/shutting off, that's unfair but if someone is genuinely tired I don't have acproblem with it. I often go up to bed at 830/9 with a book. To be fair not on a Saturday but only because I don't have to get up early on a Sunday (my weekly lie in)

I think when you're comfortable together, its ok to live your life around the other person

We have young kids. DH goes out one night a week and i go to the gym another, we don't need to see each other all the time?

I'm not excusing anyone's behaviour, just saying that people have different standards

My farting FIL is about the most middle class person you could meet but to him, and his family, farting is funny. I wasn't brought up like that so to me it's unpleasant. We're just different

OP'when you're comfortable together, its ok to live your life round one another'? Thats not a relationship and you are not comfortable with him? Its ok to not do everything together of course, but what have you got?