When the word gets out...........

[Milly22]

I'm finally going through the process of separating from H with both of us agreeing that it's just not working for us any more. Family and close friends and work colleagues have been fantastic but before long it'll get out in our DS school and it's one of those school yards where you've got those who enjoy the gossip and scandal and come all over two-faced and show their concerns while wouldn't look twice at you yesterday. Just a bunch of snobby bitches really. Need some advice/quotes and smart things to say to prep myself to basically mind their own business.

I'd not mention it TBH. It will come out, but why it is of any interest to anyone outside your immediate family is beyond me.
If people do make comments, just either reply that you don't want to talk about it or burst into tears.

Personally, I prefer to face it head up.

You could simply say, if asked, that you are incompatible and it was a mutual decision, and that it's a mutual agreement process, staying friends.

If it seems that people are making up things, you can always make a seemingly innocent comment about how some people make up stories, or that they should mind their own business.

sorry to hear this OP but you have to remember the 'school yard' is just a place you need to be to drop off and pick up your children.

You'd do well to treat it as such

Just drop off, pick up and smile for the few minutes it takes.

Don't let anything about it bother you...it doesn't seem like it now but in the grand scheme of things, the drop off/pick up is such a tiny part of your DC's life that'll soon disappear.

1. Concerned 'How ARE you Milly'?

• I'm good thank you, hectic as usual - like your shirt/hair/shoes they really suit you - change subject

1. I heard the news about your marriage split Milly, are you OK?

• Thanks so much we are both good and focused on DS, talking of which better go and see where he is....

1. Milly, my goodness, what happened? I was devastated to hear the news

• Thanks so much, its sweet of you to worry about us but we are good and focused on making sure DS is too, talking of which better go and see where he is.....

1. Repeat as required....

Shoulders back, tits forward, deep breath....
You'll be this week's news, but next weeks chip paper.
A lot will be jealous of you, btw, for having the courage to end it.
I wouldn't talk about 'us, we' etc in relation to you and your ex...it's all about you now...up to him how he deals with it. Don't slag off your ex too much if you can help it. Don't give details except to people you really trust.
And remember good old Oscar Wilde....'The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about'
Good luck.

For those that come over all two-faced I find a pleasant smile and a very short unrevealing responses work best. "I'm fine thank you for asking ..." Closely followed by a lot of silence. :)

Thanks, wouldn't give anything away to this lot, and don't feel the need to slag of H either or talk about my business, I have real friends for that. Just wanted clever things to say "piss off you nosey cow" in an indirect way really and maybe put their noses out of joint for asking.