Anyone ever had counselling to get over an obsession with an ex-fling?

[Smetana]

That's my question - has anyone ever done this. I had a three week fling nearly 8 months ago, and I think about him every day. I have no contact with him, but I just simply cannot stop thinking about him

Why did it end?

Kind of, I was in quite a bad place anyway so the counselling was for a lot of issues but one of the issues was weaning myself off a total tosser.
It's not a bad thing to do and will help you find healthier 'obsessions' for yourself.

Counselling can help with an obsession, whether it's with a person, a pair of slippers or a horror film you once saw. The problem is the obsession, not the object of it, and if your thought patterns are making you unhappy then a good counsellor should be able to help you fix that.

because he left me to go back to an ex ... (or at least I think she was an ex)

how did you all find a good counsellor?

There's a website, can't remember what it's called but it's something to do with the British association of counsellors. You input your postcode and it gives you a list of counsellors in the local area, specialities, coat etc.

Cost, not coat!

Was with my exdp for around 9 months, it took a further year to stop thinking about him every moment of the day - but I didn't have counselling. Not sure whether it would have helped tbh, I needed to get him out of system myself and I spent hours and hours boring my friends with it until I finally saw the light and was able to move on.

Good luck, I really understand what you're going through and it's shit.

Thanks, I've got to the point where I've bored my friends to death. I do all the stuff one should do - I do sport, I'm fairly socially active, I just think about him so much